I'm a first time poster but long time lurker and I could really do with some impartial advice...I'll try and keep it short(ish). Been with fiancé 5 1/2 years; one DS who is 2 and DSS who is 8 and is with us 40% of the time. DS was a bit of a surprise as I was 42 when I got pregnant. I was delighted, he was less so, but came round and seemed happy, but not overjoyed. Couple of important points: he doesn't see or talk to any of his family - long story but they sided with his ex-DP when they split. My family are v important to me but live 60 miles away so we basically had zero support when DS was born. He is amazing and I adore him. But last 2 years have been horrendous for us as a couple. We only moved in together 3 months before DS was born and cracks appeared right away. He was not emotionally supportive at all and I was recovering from an emergency C section. Anyway fast forward to Feb this year - sex life non existent as communication was terrible and he'd give me the silent treatment repeatedly. I had a very unhappy maternity leavesad( so I found messages from a woman on his Whatsapp a/c including a topless photo of her. The panic of us splitting up kept us together and he made out she was a friend and it was really just confiding as there was no emotional support from me. So I tried to forget it...things didn't stay good for very long and then I see another message ( not sure if same woman) saying along lines of looks like he's not alone, 12.30 on Monday is good for me and hope McDonalds hits the spot sad(((( don't know if meeting happened and I haven't confronted him. Things are a bit better - he still likes me sexually - but I have a hunch he's up to a whole load of crap behind my back. And I feel sick and can't trust him. Travels a lot for work and does call and email and sounds kind of normal. I can't live like this but I'm scared to confront him...help sad((