Songs which remind you of your ex

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My parents have taken my DDs to visit relatives and my move from London to Devon had made me come over all reflective and emotional (opens second bottle of wine). I've realised certain songs are a 'trigger' for me regarding ExDH. Which songs remind you of your ex and why? Sam Smith- I'm not the only one. Reminds me of when ExDH cheated when I was pregnant with DD1. Pink- family portrait particularly the lyrics 'in our family portrait we look pretty happy, let's go back to that'. Reminds me of when I realised ExDH had abandoned DDs and I to go to Iran. Adele cold shoulder- reminds me of the week of explosive rows prior to ExDH leaving. I'm pleased to be safe with my DDs in Devon but there is a part of me which wishes we could have remained a 'happy family' in London. Post away! Pass the

Um, nothing really like that.....

Just if I hear 'our song' rarely now as it's so long ago. Surprised to hear it just makes me think, 'oh that was our song.' It's the song, 'How 'bout us' by Champagne. The lyric of that song, 'if the fire's out we should both be gone' proved quite prophetic.

Songs that were relevant to relationships at the time just make me think, 'those were the days' the past is just a process I was going through (like everyone) to get to the day I met my DH.

We emigrated to New Zealand in 2011. The lyric, 'could have had it all' from Adele's song, 'Rolling in the deep' was going round and round in my head as we travelled to the airport on the day we left in February in a taxi as the rain fell.

Beautiful South - had a little time.

Makes me smile now when I hear it :)

(This is going to date me) 'Perfect' by Eddi Reader was 'our song' ... and in retrospect that should have been a red flag all by itself :) Also the entire Brothers In Arms album by Dire Straits which he had permanently playing in his car one summer. Sadly, it also happens to be the favourite album of my current squeeze.... haven't the heart to tell him!!!

'I Never Loved You Anyway', The Corrs

'Can't get you out of my head' Kylie Minogue. It was such an intense year.. And I now know what being in love feels like- no-one has ever come close to that before or since

Three days grace - I hate everything about you

It's really interesting to see how people remember the 'our song' song. I'm at the I never lived you anyway type of songs. I agree it is thanks to ex I know how it feels to be in love.

Pearl Jam - rearviewmirror
"Once and for all I'm far away
I hardly believe, finally the shades are raised.
Saw things so much clearer..."

Proclaimers - 500 Miles. ExDH at his best.

Romeo and Juliet by Dire Straits! First time I'd heard it was when my first ever boyfriend played it to me at uni.... The lines"when you gonna realise it was just that the time was wrong" made me feel better about our split. It's only now years and years later and happily with DH that I realise how wrong we were with each other. Still hurts my chest a little to hear that song tho!

Living in the name of ( f**k you...) Should have been a big red flag!! On a sad day English rose by the jam:-(
Where in Devon are you? I did the same,pm me if you want to get in touch?

Robert Plant and Alison Krauss "Let Your Loss Be Your Lesson" I sang it to myself over and over in the weeks after I told him I wanted to split up. We had a couple of "our songs" but I don't really feel bothered when I hear them. I recognise them for being "our songs" but certainly have no emotional attachment to them! Most of the songs have been ruined with with mental images of him staggering round pissed to them, or singing them (badly) on karaoke. So no, no emotional attachment!!

Northern Sky by Nick Drake. It used to make me bawl uncontrollably after we split up (it has been on a mix tape he sent me when we were falling in love) but now many years on it just makes me wistful and reflective.

Also the song Gentle Hour by Yo La Tengo because it took ages to track it down and I sent it to another ex to cheer them up when we were dating in a LDR and it made them cry, in a good way. Whenever I hear it I think of them.

'Think of me' in Phantom of the Opera makes me think of my ex from uni days. I think I knew we weren't really going to last for ever, but he hadn't screwed me over I would never have met my DH.

Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol & Chasing Pavements by Adele. Lots of chasing went on in that relationship, and not in a good way.

The Sign by Ace of Base! Looking back I should have seen that particular sign before we split! Just makes me smile to myself now when I hear it rather than cry.

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Thorn in my Side - Eurythmics for the really annoying one

I couldn't listen to Won't Hold You Back - Toto for years after "the one" dumped me - still makes me sad

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My first proper bf. Can't listen to thus song, and I really liked it at the time.

All about abusive XP, DS' father.

"Our" song was sooo creepy looking back it makes me shudder. Snow Patrol Chasing Cars. "We'll do it all, everything on our own//We don't need anything or anyone"

Eminem, he was a big eminem fan and, well, the general abusive kind of language and even the way that his anger/frustration comes out in the way he sings takes me back to a dark place which I can't stand to listen to.

One album he had playing on repeat in his car while we had a god awful long drive around, we were supposed to be on a date, DS was being looked after by my mum, sister and cousin and he started screaming at me about how he never had any help to look after our child, why should my cousin (who had met DS about 2 days ago and didn't know much about babies) have help? And then it turned into well I don't think this is working and then stupidly mentioned that various people had told me to break up with him and he was demanding to know while driving at ridiculous speeds and I kept silently praying that he wouldn't crash or stop and leave me somewhere in the dark on my own in the middle of the countryside. We eventually went for a meal after all of this and it was the most soulless, boring dead meal I've ever choked down. Everything was totally gone and we had nothing at all to say to each other. It must have been a Ne-Yo album because the song was "Miss Independent" with the line "She got her own thing//that's why I love her" and I remember thinking if only he would think like that.

by Nelly Furtardo and James Morrison. This one I've linked because it's absolutely spot on. It was out around the time that we broke up and I knew the lyrics off by heart and inexplicably had that song going around and around in my head the day that I left. Every single line was 100% true for me at that time.

After I left there were two which stuck out - I didn't have internet when I first moved and the house was so quiet I had local radio playing most of the time. Cheryl Cole had just announced her divorce from Ashley Cole and the news bulletins would announce this every time in between playing her song "Fight for this love" about once every hour or two. I thought that was really stupid and insensitive but apparently celebrities don't have any feelings so that's okay.

The second one was Beat Again by JLS which is about a man who goes to the doctor because he is heartbroken and the doctor tells him he's going to die and his heart won't beat again without this woman. So basically "Get back together with your poor broken hearted man before he dies and it's all your fault". Really needed THAT right at that time!

Sad I don't have any songs reminding me of happy times with him. I have a couple with other exes, and lots with DH :) But nothing like the complete musical history I have here!

Used to play a Dire Straights Cassette (that dates it) in the car all the way to my future DH's house. It was over an hour's drive around the M25 from my local junction to the exit junction in Dagenham and then back into East London.

Brothers in Arms and all the guitar playing on that whole album is fantastic. Played the album so many times on the journey certain tracks could be a time check ! Love the guitar playing on, 'Calling Elvis' but you can keep the lyrics. The words on, 'My party' make me smile. The whole album was really good driving music.

The Tasmin Archer song, 'Sleeping Satellite' was in the charts at the time the lyric, 'I blame you for the.......dream that died' was the last goodbye, in my heart at least to my ex bf.

The Brian May version of, 'Everything I do' was also in the charts too. The lyric, 'high speed but you know, you're in safe hands' summed up how quickly my bf became my fiancée. We met in May/June and were engaged in August. I dated by first bf for about 8 years !

Anyway, back on topic

"I'm good for just one kiss
Not legendary love"

Not ex (yet) but All In Vain by The Vaccines always reminds me of mine, ironically he bought me the cd. I listen to it when I have a bad day with him, it makes me feel stronger.

'No, you can't hold a gun to my head
Because baby, I would just refuse'

My childhood sweetheart, who I am still close to, Late Night Grand Hotel by Nanci Griffiths. I sometimes sing to get DD to sleep and feel wistful.
My uni boyfriend and I used to listen to Alanis Morrisette a lot and when we split I always connected him with the song from her second album 'RU still mad?'
"Are you still mad that we slept together even after we had ended it?
Of course you are."
A horrible man who was a friend but who 'date-raped' me is interwined in my mind with a rather beautiful Tori Amos song called Hey Jupiter.
"No-one's picking up the phone, guess it's clear he's gone and this little masochist is lifting up her dress, guess I thought I could never feel the things I feel.