Songs which remind you of your ex

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My parents have taken my DDs to visit relatives and my move from London to Devon had made me come over all reflective and emotional (opens second bottle of wine). I've realised certain songs are a 'trigger' for me regarding ExDH. Which songs remind you of your ex and why? Sam Smith- I'm not the only one. Reminds me of when ExDH cheated when I was pregnant with DD1. Pink- family portrait particularly the lyrics 'in our family portrait we look pretty happy, let's go back to that'. Reminds me of when I realised ExDH had abandoned DDs and I to go to Iran. Adele cold shoulder- reminds me of the week of explosive rows prior to ExDH leaving. I'm pleased to be safe with my DDs in Devon but there is a part of me which wishes we could have remained a 'happy family' in London. Post away! Pass the

It wasn't me by shaggy! Ah yes it was exh

For me, it's Rihanna's Only Girl in the World. I remember trying to get abusive ex to dance with me at a wedding. He knew how much I wanted to dance and always refused. He came onto the dance floor and just sort of stood there, barely moving, looking like he was doing me this huge favour, while I sang these words to him 'want you to make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world'. Quite desperately really as I was starting to get how bad our relationship was. It makes me feel pain when I hear the song, remembering how much I wanted it all to work, to fix it, to reach him. Sadly he was a Level 9 abuser ('I never hit you'), and the resulting car crash needed all the agencies to resolve. It's not a place I like to get taken back to.

I heard Jessie Ware's If You're Never Gonna Move on the radio the night before we split and I remember feeling really empty and sad. It took a while to be able to listen to it again without feeling low - not because I wanted him back, far from it, but because I recalled how miserable and alone I felt. Now I look back and realise how far I've come since then.

I also recall the Mavericks' Dance The Night Away playing on the radio a couple of weeks after we'd split, and it was the perfect tune to accompany my feelings of utter relief. Katie Perry's Roar is similar (and I love belting it out ).