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Last night DH called me a 'tramp'

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AvaLou · 21/09/2006 17:05

Because when he got home at 8.30pm (DC's were long since bathed and asleep) I was in the bath having a glass of wine, and had already had another whilst watching t.v.
It resulted in a big arguement. He said a mother shouldn't drink at home, and especially not alone. I asked how 'trampish' he considers himself when he goes and sits in the pub alone for a couple of pints with a book after work.
So I am just wondering about your drinking habits, and your DH's, and your opinions please.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 21/09/2006 17:07

Neither of us really drink, but i REFUSE to drink in the house IF I am alone. IF something was to happen to the girls, I would need to be sober and able to drive.

The only time we really ever drink now is if my dad is over babysitting. I am too cautious for my own good I know, but I wouldnt call you a tramp for drinking at home

nellie245 · 21/09/2006 17:08

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codwiggle · 21/09/2006 17:08

ava
he is a nob in t his regard isnt he

had he been t the pub himself?

trinityshiftingherleatheryarse · 21/09/2006 17:09

definitely not trampish at all
I used to drink when alone but not alot in a night.
If I want to have alot I do it when dh is there. You hadn't had alot though, not sure what your dh's problem is really

nellie245 · 21/09/2006 17:09

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kayleigh81 · 21/09/2006 17:10

Me and dp often have drink when our ds has gone to bed, and why not....we dont go out much coz its hard for us to get a babysitter so we have a drink in the house. We dont drink ourselves stupid or anything but i think its a nice was to relax after a stressful day

Kelly1978 · 21/09/2006 17:10

I drink alone, always have done. Nothing nicer than a glass of wine in peace. I stay sober enough to look after the kids should they need me, but I don't worry about driving, I could jsut get a taxi.

Twiglett · 21/09/2006 17:10

I'd bloody tramp all over his face if my DH talked to me like that (well I wouldn't but it sounds good)

what a prize pratt

make him pay

Pinotmum · 21/09/2006 17:12

I drink now and then before dh gets home. He laughs if he comes in and sees a bevvy on the go and says "hard day?"... If he didn't like it I would listen to his reasons if he put them across in a polite and reasonable way. If he called me a tramp I'd tell him to go boil his head but then he knows this so he always shows respect.

KBear · 21/09/2006 17:13

I thought a tramp was a tarty woman who flirted with men not a tired mother who treats herself to a glass of wine at the end of a long day.

Kick his arse.

Mascaraohara · 21/09/2006 17:14

I would like to say he sounds like an arse but with my current thread I am in no position to say anything

hulababy · 21/09/2006 17:15

I'd be furious with him. 2 glasses of wine does not render you incapable, and you are perfectly entitled to relax after a day with the children. And, as you say, your DH does the same - just in a pub!

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beckybrastraps · 21/09/2006 17:17

I don't think the issue is the drinking. It's the use of the word "tramp".

joelallie · 21/09/2006 17:17

Stupid prat! How dare he?

Unless he wants to come home to get the kids in bed so that you can go out and have an un-trampish drink in the pub.

BTW I thought too that tramp meant loose woman

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AvaLou · 21/09/2006 17:17

LOL at some of your posts.
Two glasses does not get me drunk, no way, plus to quote nellie ' wait until lord and master is home' .
Thats just it, I knew he was on the way home (and yes he'd been to the pub ( though with colleauges not alone) and had a fab dinner in the oven for him and we just got a great wine box delivered so why the hell shouldn't I crack one open and relax!?

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hulababy · 21/09/2006 17:19

Yes, I think the name calling was completely out of order.

nellie245 · 21/09/2006 17:19

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1Baby1Bump · 21/09/2006 17:20

i think its brilliant that he is at the effing pub when this goes on....

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AvaLou · 21/09/2006 17:36

Well it's easy to LOL on here, but it was really hurtful, and esecialy as he couldn't articulate what he meant by it.
Maybe me post bath, exhausted, wrapped in a towel isn't what he wants to come home to. (pfft)
(Mental note - dig out pencil skirt and heels for to morow, LOL)

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southeastastra · 21/09/2006 17:43

my dp is tee-total and really hates it when he comes home (at 9.30) to see me drinking, i know it's different circumstances but it riles me too.

Blu · 21/09/2006 17:43

It's horrible to insult you like that - he should be pleased that you have been able to have 10 mins peace. He was being extremely selfish and horrible.

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AvaLou · 21/09/2006 17:43

easy for ME to lol I meant, but not so in real life.

Does anyone dare me to grab all the wine bottles from our recycling bin and sprawl across the living room floor surrounded by them and pretend slurring when he comes home? That may make him realise that 'tramp' isn't a flippant comment.

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nutcracker · 21/09/2006 17:45

What a knob.

P just passed comment about me having 2 g&t's at my mums on the way home from school just.