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what is your most WTAF break up?

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Frogisatwat · 27/08/2014 21:01

Here are mine.. lovely boyfriend. Really lovely. Relationship was going swimmingly or so I thought. . He lost his job so I lent him some money on the proviso that he paid me back when his dole (as it was commonly known then) came through.
He was very honorable about this and met me on 'giro' day. As I could see his was struggling I said 'look if this is difficult then why not give me half now and half in two weeks'. To which he replied. ' Ahh the thing is frog I wont actually be here in 2 weeks I am moving to gran canaria' and he did. Poof! Gone!
The other that sticks in my mind is a boyfriend of six months. .again in my mind going well.. turned up on my doorstep for a date. . With all my possessions in a little bag. No pre emptive 'we need to talk' just a 'hi frog this isn't working out for me'
Possessions btw were just shower gel n shit. Like on SATC . I didn't scarily try and move in by stealth.
Strangely ... or not. . These were lovely clean break ups even though my heart broke at the time.

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RaRaSkirtsForever · 29/08/2014 20:33

This is hilarious when I think about it now but I was devastated when it happened.

My First Love dumped me after six months by writing my name then the words your chucked on the blackboard during morning registration the first day back after Christmas break. Rest of the tutor group thought it was hilarious, I was utterly devastated, cried right through double Maths....

It sounds like something out of inbetweeners, doesn't it?

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winkywinkola · 29/08/2014 20:35

Minion. Hmm That sounds so painful.

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KouignAmann · 29/08/2014 22:03

The first boy I went out with in my first month at Uni rather decided I was his GF and I was too polite to say I didn't want this. He had it all planned out how we would get married quickly because he didnt believe in sex before marriage. I was so freaked out and incapable of speaking to boys after nine years in a girls boarding school I just hid from him. He used to come round to my hall of residence and sit outside my door while I hid inside with the light off pretending I wasn't there. Eventually he gave up.
At the end of the year he failed all his exams and I fet horribly guilty it was all my fault. I wish I could apologise now for being so cowardly and immature but he had some responsibility too.

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winkywinkola · 30/08/2014 07:00

Kouign, I don't think you were in any way responsible for this guy's exam failures! It was up to him to study.

I know how hard it is when someone is overwhelmingly suffocating and tries to run your world. And then they won't take no for an answer. It's pretty scary.

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GreatAuntDinah · 30/08/2014 09:19

My ex P got his mum to ring me to tell me he'd got married Hile working abroad.

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izzydazzling · 30/08/2014 11:35

not really a break. It was a ONS. I'm convinced he didn't call back because he disapproved of my Sweater Shop jumper. Lovely jumper it was too.

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MasqueradeWaltzer · 30/08/2014 11:37

One ex I had been living with packed up and moved out while I was at work...on my birthday. I mean, a split was on the cards, so I wasn't devastated or anything, but what timing! Arse.

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MasqueradeWaltzer · 30/08/2014 11:39

One ex was supposed to be coming to watch me on the last night of a university drama club show I was in. He just never turned up and that was that. My performance was particularly emotional that night Hmm.

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theuncivilservant79 · 30/08/2014 13:17

I needed this thread. Recently dumped by silence after being told her hAd fallen for me after going on at me for weeks about building our relationship. He is 37 and a uni lecturer but still too spineless to tell me it was over. I suspect his ex came back on the scene but I will never know. It made me feel shit but I met a lovely guy soon after who I am dating nowGrin

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grubbybrat · 31/08/2014 11:24

My university boyfriend of two years moved to New York for six months. I rang him from the pay phone in halls on valentines day, and the phone was answered by a woman, who told me to hang on... And on. I got about 30s before my money ran out to talk to him. Seems she was already on the phone, I came though on call waiting and she just made me hang on while she finished her convo. And he told me the next day he was dating her. She dumped him as soon as she was pregnant about a year later.

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vrtra · 31/08/2014 22:15

Hiya frog ??

I'm actually ok, been twat free for 2 months now. I do find myself having a bit of a cry here and there over what could have been, but mostly just enjoying being single. A couple of old flames have popped back into my life recently, which is nice. Let the sad bastard enjoy the single life!

Am open mouthed at some of the break ups on here!

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WillYouDoTheFandango · 31/08/2014 22:49

DP of 10 years, DS was just turned one. Had been a miserable arsehole for a month or so. Moping about, refusing to book holidays, etc.

I got a horrendous stomach bug and already felt so shit that I demanded to know WTF was going on with him. Admitted he didn't fancy me anymore and just saw me as a mum now. Didn't think it was salvageable and he wished he'd said something sooner.

I sobbed, threw up in my bucket and he fucked off to his mum's.

I'm sure one day lightyears from now it'll be funny Grin

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Frogisatwat · 01/09/2014 05:22

Willyou
What a fucking arse. Is this recent?

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WillYouDoTheFandango · 01/09/2014 08:52

Yep earlier this year Frogs. Its still not funny yet!

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Frogisatwat · 01/09/2014 08:55

Thanks that is awful x

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thatthingonyournose · 01/09/2014 18:20

I started seeing a bloke I met at a sports club who really chased me. I was a bit 'meh' about him, but was really happy to date and see where it went. The first time we DTD I went back to his house and discovered that his flatmate was a girl he used to date. She was in the living room in her underwear reading something when we came in. He explained that they used to go out and were now "best friends." I thought that's a bit odd, but got on with it.

Over the next few months we saw each other, she was always around and always in her underwear inside the house. She started tagging along to stuff we were doing as a third wheel. I got really bored with her always hanging around (not annoyed, I just found her a bit boring.) One day we all (me, him, her and a couple of other friends) hired a cottage in the middle of nowhere and there was a sudden blackout. I sprung into action, found a torch and lit the fire. Once the fire cast a light on the room again, I turned back and my BF and her were holding hands and kissing!

I started laughing at the absurdity of the situation. I really didn't care that much, I was young and just enjoying the things we were doing together. I told them I thought they'd make a great couple and I was glad they wanted to get back together again and that I'd leave them to it.

I made to leave and he went ABSOLUTELY BALLISTIC. Crying, pulling me back, not letting me out of the door. "How can you do this to me?" he was saying. "I thought we had something special?"

It got to the point where I was was in hysterics laughing and pointing out that he obviously had feelings for his flatmate as they had just been kissing! Both of them refused to acknowledge what had happened, she got on with doing something in the kitchen while he sobbed and tried to block my car from leaving. It was the strangest, strangest evening of my life.

After that he used to call me about five times a day. I only picked up once and told him again that it was over and I'd met someone else. What followed was a huge expletive filled rant telling me I was a fucking bitch for cheating on him, how could I have found someone else after everything we had together. I never got to the bottom of the mystery!

However - I stayed friends with him on Facebook and guess who he eventually married?! Her.

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Frogisatwat · 01/09/2014 19:56

Bloody hell that is one weird situation. .

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pictish · 02/09/2014 10:31
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KERALA1 · 02/09/2014 10:45

My mums friend daughter was very beautiful and travelling the world on a gap year. Got together with a New Zealand man who wanted to visit England so stayed with her mum while the girl was in India. The mum really liked the boyfriend all going well until the mum got a call from the daughter she had met someone else could the mum dump the boyfriend! Awful he was very upset the mum was furious

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pollypocket99 · 13/09/2014 11:25

I got dumped on the second night of what I thought would be a lovely holiday (he'd taken me to meet some of his extended family in the country his father is from). Then he thought he'd soften the blow by telling me he'd been wanting to do it for EIGHT MONTHS but couldn't find the right time and as I seemed so happy it didn't seem fair! Talk about rubbing salt in the wound. This was only a few weeks ago by the way Sad so I am still Angry

What makes me most cross is he'd talked about us moving in together, and he was the one who suggested the holiday and yet all along he was just a spineless coward.

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Lweji · 13/09/2014 11:52

Well, as we are doing reverse dumpings, I told my exH I was going shopping with DS and did he want to come. He said no, so I left. Next thing he had the police at the door asking if I could go in and collect my things. Oh, and that I was dumping him.

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Lweji · 13/09/2014 11:59

Oh, a colleague was dumped by her then partner (they were living together), who was working abroad for a few months and told her he was having a baby with a woman he had met there.

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