Do you & your DP go to bed at the same time? A grip needed here!

[BlueberryMuffins76]

Just that really, do you and your DP go to bed at the same time? Or does one of you go and the other follow later? For the most part, my DP and I go to bed together, after watching a bit of tv or something. Lately (we've been together less than a year) there's been a couple of nights where I've been shattered, and he hasn't - I've fallen asleep on the sofa and then have come up to bed whilst he's stayed down and watched a film or whatever. This in theory is fine - however, I'm really struggling with it for some reason. I'm prone to bad anxiety over the most random things, and this seems to have really triggered it. Like now, he's downstairs - I know he might fall asleep on the sofa and that's fine, at 4am I'll wake up thinking he did it on purpose to avoid being in bed with me. I don't know why I'm finding this such a big deal, when it's fine isn't it? Surely lots of couples go to bed at different times? Like I said, a grip needed here!

If we are both in we tend to go to bed at the same time but I will just fall straight asleep and he will watch a film for a couple of hours. He's a night owl. But I get up 2 hours earlier than him in the week.

Most nights we go to bed together. Sometimes I go a bit earlier but he always comes up within an hour. We like to cuddle up and chat and end the day together.

We never sleep on the sofa.

Occasionally, if he snores and I can't stop him I nip into the spare room during the night and if he wakes up he follows me

Rarely go to bed at the same time, but we've been married over 20 yrs, so slightly different. We did go to bed at the same time a lot more when we were younger / newly married...it would have been fairly standard then.

We are in bed by ten.
I often go up about 9 as I like reading in peace. Or will stay up to watch a film and avoid conjugals

We've always gone at different times, I like that time to myself in the evening. If we're planning on having sex we tend to just go up to dtd and then both get up again.

We normally go to bed at the same time, about 11ish.
But there is the odd occasion where I'll go up earlier cos I'm tired or want to read.
I like having a cuddle or a chat before we go to sleep.

I nearly always go to bed first.

Separate bedrooms here so it doesn't matter.

I can't understand why it's such a big deal to some people but I can't see it ever being personal unless their are other issues in the relationship.

Yes. We pretty much always go to bed at different times. DH needs way more sleep than me. I stay up and sew when he's gone to bed as thats the only time I get alone. I also seem to be the one that ALWAYS gets up with DS2 in the morning, but that's ok because I don't find it that hard to wake, and DH does.

We've only been married 2 months, but we've gone to bed at separate times on a few occasions. It's usually me going up first, but once or twice he's gone up early. He'll stop downstairs watching films and come up when he's done.

I always go to bed first as I need more sleep than him but sometimes we want to watch different things and I am happy to go to bed. I hate falling asleep on the couch then having to get up and get ready for bed. I also like having the bed to myself. The only thing that annoys me is that my partner regularly falls asleep on the couch so I have to go down and wake him to get to get to bed

I think the longer you have been with your partner the less you put a great emphasis on going to bed together. Before the kids we'd pretty much go to bed at the same time and maybe DH would read in bed as he is more of a night owl than me. I tend to go to bed between 10 - 11pm and up at 6am. Not every night but some nights after we've watched a bit of TV together he likes to unwind by playing play-station later into the night

we go to bed at different times and in different beds. Snoring is a bastard.

We both go to bed at the same time. I wouldn't like it if we didn't , although I can't quite say why.

I love going to bed together but work patterns and different sleeping patterns make it rare :(

Very rarely. But I'm a morning person and am normally awake between 5 and 6 am and can not get back to sleep. Where as dh tends to be up late night early morning.

Op do you live together ? I understand that after a few years , a few kids ect you can doze off on the sofa or go to bed at different times , but I think a partner of under a year doing this is a bit off. It stinks of lack of effort to me. What will he be like in a few years ?

Sometimes we do and generally things are good but my DH can do that annoying 'I feel like staying up late watching TV' and then be too tired to get up with DCs thing

My wife needs loads of sleep so she is usually in bed by 6pm while I am up at 10 or 11. We are both up at 545 including weekends.

We usually go to bed at the same time because I like a cuddle! DP is almost always working till late though so it's a nice chance to spend time together at the end of the day. I'm not sure if I would feel differently if he got home from a nine-to-five and we spent hours together every night.

Always but we sleep in separate rooms!