What to do re ex friend and wedding - need advice

[agirlcalledsandoz]

I'll try not to make this too long. Bit of background. I had been best friends with X since school, saw each other nearly every week, talked on phone etc. in 2009 she started seeing someone from work, who was married at the time he spilt with his wife to be with her. At the time I told her maybe best not get involved with him( she had never had a relationship before and was, I felt, a bit naive. Others have said to me no she knew what she was doing etc. her now DP is very domineering, brash and inappropriate, totally overpowers her to the point where she barely speaks and gazes at him adoringly. As soon as they got together our friendship deteriorated, every time we met up either he would be there or she would dash off to meet him after an hour or so. Then started ignoring my texts and calls, barely saw her and when I did couldn't speak to her. After about 18 months of this and when I would text/call her asking to meet up she would ignore me, not even get back to say no. I decided to just leave it, I thought if she contacts me then ok but I'm not contacting her. She also dropped our other mutual friends, all of who felt the same about her DP as I did.

So needless to say I didn't hear from her

About a year ago she got engaged to her DP and at the time he sent a mutual male friend if ours an abusive message on Facebook saying he knew they'd had a thing together ( a few kisses 12 years ago) and did he fuck her at that time u felt a bad for X, thinking maybe she needed a friend so I sent her a message but as usual for no reply.

Last night she messaged me asking if I'll be her bridesmaid, I haven't seen her for 2 years and not so much as a text message since then. To me, the friendship is over and I was ok with that but this has brought it all back to me. I don't really want to go to the wedding, never mind be bridesmaid but I feel torn, don't know what to do really, looking for some advice from the outside really. My DH thinks she is just using me as she wants a bridesmaid.

[mipmop]

Maybe the cogs are whirring - she knows too many topics of conversion are off-limits because she's in a bad relationship etc. That's what's too awkward. People who are happy with their lives and happy with their decisions are happy to meet up with old friends.

But yes, at least you know.