Totally lost the plot with DH today.
To cut to the chase he runs his own company (with business partner) and works most days 7.30 am to 7 pm ish.
I work part-time as well as looking after 2 DC's and running the household.
Whilst I totally get he is the main bread winner and has a stressful job, I cannot take that as a valid reason for him to do sweet FA when he gets home. Most nights he gets in, puts on big show of showing how tired he is, exclaims he's starving, and then flops in front of TV for rest of evening. In the meantime, I am doing dinner, bathing and putting DC's to bed, and clearing up. Weekends seem to be either him undertaking random household projects (little of which seems necessary), which leave even more of a mess for me to clear up, or monosyllabic, shut away reading weekend papers. He'll 'play' with DCs for the minimum time and will only do any family activity if I organise it.
Have tried and tried to make him understand that he switches off when he gets home, but what about me??? When do I get to clock off?
Massive row tonight, he accused me of sulking and not having any clue about how hard he works, whilst I said I was being treated like a scivvy and being taken advantage off. So now now he's buggered off the pub! Every time I try and broach the subject, he thinks he's being attacked and I just get more and more resentful.
How can I resolve this with it escalating into some huge make or break deal (which is where it seems to be headed). All I know is that I've had enough and all I want is a bit of help around the place.
Any thoughts gratefully received...