So recently it has transpired that my DH has been lying (quite considerably) about something work related which has quite a potential impact on our family life (we have 3 DC under 6). He's not Walter White or anything like that but he has deliberately spun me a line about something even under subtle questioning once I started to suss what was going on. I've pulled him up on it tonight and he wasn't really able (or perhaps didn't want) to justify why he has lied when there was no need. He initially tried to keep lying his way out of it to start off with but kind of gave up once like a balloon that had been popped with a pin once I made it clear that I had firm incontrovertible evidence he was lying and that I couldn't understand why he felt the need to lie at all.
I made it very clear that as he has lied about something which ordinarily I would expect to be discussed as part of a normal relationship between two adults then how on earth can I believe anything he has says about anything. Other than looking rather sad and saying he was upset that he had disappointed me, it's kind of been left unresolved and we've had a relatively normal evening albeit with a middling sized elephant sitting in the corner of the room.
What do I do now? How do I/we move on from this? I am going to ask him again tomorrow evening for an update about the work situation and hope that is honest with me this time but who knows whether he will be or not. He has said he's not lied about anything else and isn't planning to leave us and set up home with a cocktail waitress or whatever but how do I actually KNOW?
Any advice would be welcome as my head is spinning a bit with the lies, let alone the implications of the actual situation he's been lying about. One step at a time though...