Can you pull in the gym?

[Flossiex2]

I have tried online dating (very time-consuming,) work with mostly females and only manage an occasional night out. A friend of mine has been out with at least half the men in her gym. I used to be a member but can't see how on earth I would get chatting to a guy in that environment. Any tips?

I've had guys hit on me in the gym. To be honest I find it fucking irritating.

The only thing I can think of is if you do a regular class and end up chatting to someone afterwards. Or join the squash club at the gym and meet people in the socials afterwards.

I look like a sweating mass of redness when at the gym, I've never been chatted up. Can't think why

I am not likely to do weights (weakling.)

That's a good idea re. a regular class but not Zumba which is a shame as that would be my thing. I am scared of spin but imagine men do it?

I was wondering how you might flirt/catch someone's eye/start talking?

It's BIL's 'hunting' ground. He's met all his past girlfriends at the gym.

If your gym has a steam room and sauna open to all members, and you wore a skimpy bikini, I suspect you would get plenty of offers.

Oh god I didn't think of that. My body is not bikini ready yet anyway ie untoned flab.

How does my gorgeous friend manage it?

Whenever I've been to the gym, women always seem more interested in their workout and mp3 player than in getting chatted up.

I'm sure some people go to pull, or to get pulled.

I've pulled in the gym

a muscle, that is.

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My mate's husband had an affair with a woman he met at spin class.

I've not tried the gym for pulling but OP you should give weights a go you don't need to be strong.

An actual famous actor chatted me up once

But it was 15 years ago, I don't think he'd bother now I'm in my forties with 5 kids. :-(

Doesn't it tell you something that your friend 'has been out with at least half the men in her gym'. NOT that she has met a kind, decent partner. Sounds as though you might get lucky if you look good in Lycra but don't expect a long term relationship. Each to their own

I've pulled a muscle. You could try that but I wouldn't recommend it.

Sorry - joke's been done.

TBH the gym is the last place I'd be looking to pull or be pulled. If you are doing it properly you should be red-faced, sweaty and (not to put too fine a point on it) smelly. Now after the gym when you are clean and glowing - much better idea.

yeah... i have to say that the kind of guys that hit on you in the gym are generally the sort of creepy arse holes who aren't bothered about disturbing your workout or feel bizarrely entitled to your time.

I actually had a guy tap me on the shoulder once and gesture for me to take my earphones out (I was listening to loud music). Of course I assumed for someone to do this it must be important, but no. He waited until I had taken out my earphones then brazenly asked for my number. He seemed to take it well when I told him to go fuck himself though.

Spinning isn't scary OP - it's really good fun and a great workout. You'll have to figure out a class that you can go to religiously though - the only people i've ever noticed actually speaking to each other are the real regulars.

No way. If anyone I know even sees my in the gym I try to avoid them. All red faced, sweaty, pretending you know how that new machine works and all that. And anyway, most of the men in our gym spend so much time in front of the mirror, I reckon they would rather date themselves.....

Boxercise classes are good as you generally have to pair up or circuit training as you are on stations in groups and both are targeted more at men than women.

I do these classes because I prefer them to the "dancy" style ones where I don't feel I get a good enough workout - not cos I'm trying to pull. However, I have been chatted up a few times which is bizarre cos I'm usually the sweatiest smelliest oldest person in the class. I have the view that anyone who'd fancy me looking like that must be a complete weirdo and should be massively swerved!!!

I agree with spin and boxing being classes with a larger number of men. Chat to people at the start or end of the class - a couple of anodyne comments, just be friendly. I think a lot of people are just in the gym zoneout mode and don't really notice anyone else but if you chat to someone you like the look of it should wake them up a little.

Do some weights OP - good for bone density and improving your shape, never mind pulling.

As for looking sweaty, red faced etc. I can't see a problem - going to the gym is about activity, health, fitness. Seeing someone tackle a tough workout is sexy IMO. You can always do your hair and makeup afterwards.

Having said all that, I've never pulled in a gym

I pulled at the gym once, many years ago. It was a gym circuit class. Thirty seconds on a weights machine, thirty seconds interval training around 12 machines and 12 interval training exercises.

Basically we'd been flirting. He was a mouth-wateringly sexy bloke, ex-navy, kind, funny etc.

One time he was at the gym, sitting on a bench with his legs apart, either side of the corner of the bench. I deliberately put my foot on the corner of the bench to tie the shoe lace of the trainers I was wearing. I wanted to see if he would flinch with my foot swiftly making a path towards his genitals.

He flinched for a split second, then smiled when he realised I was just putting my foot on a convenient spot to tie my shoelace. He smiled warmly at me. Like he just got the invitation. Now that we were sure we were reading from the same page.

His life was in disarray, he'd left the navy, was living with his mum, he had a junior job within walking distance of where he lived. He was upset that his job wasn't all that and his boss spoke to him like he's the tea boy.

He ditched me when he was making plans to go back to the navy. He wrote me a note and left it under the windscreen wiper of my car.

His lasting legacy to me ? An STD. Gee thanks.

Let's just say I'd not long come out of a long term relationship, self esteem was on the floor and I would fuck just about any bloke with a pulse and a functioning penis.

I hope not. My dh goes to the gym 3 times a week............!

I've never been approached at the gym .