Can you pull in the gym?

[Flossiex2]

I have tried online dating (very time-consuming,) work with mostly females and only manage an occasional night out. A friend of mine has been out with at least half the men in her gym. I used to be a member but can't see how on earth I would get chatting to a guy in that environment. Any tips?

What a story, lauranorder!

Maybe it's not realistic to expect to meet someone at the gym. Back to the drawing board...

Me? No way, bright red & sweaty is me at the gym so definitely not at my best-I do go to actually work out though.

You on the other hand may well pull at the gym-I'd go to a different one than the one your friend frequents though, you know where half those blokes have been...

MissSmiley, come on, who was it?!

I look hideously sweaty, florid in the face, gangly and uncoordinated, as I flail around in my Zumba class. Even if there were any blokes in the class they wouldn't be interested.

The Zumba promotional films abound with hot, coordinated, Zumba-loving men. Where are they all IRL?

Try your local running club. People talk when they run together.

Flossiex2 - thanks.

That was back when I was single.

I've been married to a bloke that I didn't meet in a gym, for 20 years now.

The STD ? I was worried about a mole that had turned black, I'm fair skinned. So I showed it to my doctor who said it was a blood filled navei, the Doctor said it was harmless and I shouldn't worry.

As it was the summer I also had a sweat rash that I knew would go away within 24 hours after showering and keeping the area clean and dry.

However, the doctor diagnosed herpes and gave me a course of treatment. I queried the diagnosis and the doctor gave me and the response of more or less, 'I know what herpes looks like.'

I chose to go along to the local STD clinic for further tests, they couldn't even find the antibodies for herpes from the blood tests they took.

I went back and mentioned this to my doctor (well, the doctor at my surgery who examined me anyway.) Who grinned at me and said, 'If this happens again, would you like to go and see your friends at the STD clinic ?' She was so fucking rude !

After the initial diagnosis I was embarrassed to go to my husband, cap in hand, after what was then 14 years of marriage, to tell him I had an STD. No question of infidelity from either of us, thank goodness.

(Also having to declare it every time I donated blood. As long as I wasn't having an episode of herpes i.e. the rash when donating blood then that was ok with the transfusion service.)

We (that's my husband and I) then got a joint appointment to see the doctor that diagnosed me. My husband was concerned that the information on my notes was incorrect and that's illegal because of the data protection act. Again, the doctor stuck to her diagnosis and more or less said, 'if you don't like it, and I'm not surprised, tough'.

I've since moved overseas. On the occasion I've gone to see my doctor on unrelated matters, there's no mention of either diagnosis or treatment of an STD. Interesting........I wonder why.........?

Anyway, back on topic.

It's won't be easy, most are not interesting in pulling when in the gym. I have only spoken to a woman once and she came up to me asking questions and help with some springs for the barbell. I assisted her and went straight back to what i was doing when I'm in the zone I don't like be distracted.

Plus I would have thought a woman would consider me rude if I interrupted her workout.

BUT you would have a good chance in classes like Boxfit although mainly women in those type of classes they have a higher male turnout then zumba and it's a more sociable activity.

I went to boxercise once and the instructor kept pointing out I was new so could everyone be gentle with me. That combined with the sweaty gloves put me off.