Thinking about cheating

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hi everyone,I'd like to get advice on this.

I met my hubby when I was 17 and we got married when I was 19.I'm now 28 and he is 32.

He was my first time (sex) and he is the only one I have ever slept with.

The last 2 years I have been thinking about cheating on him because I feel now that I want to try and have a different sexual experience with someone else.

My hubby had several experiences before we met so I feel like he can compare.

This is tearing me apart because I love him and we got 2 kids.

Does this make me a bad person!

It's my experience that when someone suggests an open relationship they are already cheating or they've got someone in mind to cheat with. The request is often either an attempt to get the spouse to sanction it , or a way to say look , I'm giving you warning , I'm halfway out the door , in the hope that the other person will finally listen and realize what they stand to lose. A sort of fair warning .

Certainly if my spouse suggested this I would presume we were in crisis and that he was already cheating. I'd query why he was content with our sex life up until two years ago , and I'd consider the possibility that he had had a new experience and was now comparing . If that isn't the case , are you hoping to provoke him into going all caveman on you ?

I think you need to be clear about what you really want , ie do you want a sexual experience with someone else , or do you want a better relationship with your husband ? Even if you cheat , you are still left with a husband who doesn't compliment you and still only wants sex on a Thursday. If you were previously happy with your sex life two years ago , what's changed ?

I wouldn't risk it and I'll be honest op I came close. I had 2 other partners before Dh but we have a strong and fulfilling relationship. After the birth of our son u felt so much changed. I started getting emotionally involved with a friend. He was flattering me constantly and made me feel excited. I seriously considered it. But then I thought about how amazing my husband is. That night I sat down with him and told him. He really understood. He was upset I'd done what I'd done and not gone to him straight away. Concentrate in building your sexual experience in your marriage, if you share how you feel (not necessarily the wanting to cheat) it will serve to strengthen what you already have.