Nightmare on a Saturday, feel desperate...

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Went to DH friends party with DH. Mild crush on his friend. Just learnt via the friend that I said awful things to him and then followed him into his bedroom. My DH said on Sunday that I was v drunk but didn't tell me all the awful things I said. DH friend said I was like a stalker! My face us burning, I feel so stupid, in tears, wishing I could travel back in time. I'm on a diet, as always, so hadn't eaten and everyone was going shots. Can never see DH friend again and also why didn't DH tell me what an absolute horror I am. Not sure what to do, seems even worse writing it down if that's possible. Bloody hate me.

Face is burning, doing shots, just in case it wasn't clear! MN has been there for me in the past and I just hope a kind soul can say something to help......thank you. Why am I so fucking stupid!!!!! House full of kids otherwise I would go for a run and try and lose myself, can't bear thinking how stupid I made myself look in front of everyone, what my poor DH thinks of me and DH friend who compared me to a stalker!!!

It will get better!
I've been that person and felt like I couldn't live let alone leave the house again.
How is dh with you? my ex was awful if I made a tit or of myself, would humiliate me further. Not that I do it often but I did once get hammered in front of my now dp and he was so sympathetic and lovely, I got over it much quicker.
We all make mistakes, the friend will forgive, don't beat yourself up x

Can you send a written apology?

We have all been there so don't beat yourself up too much. Okay you made an arse of yourself, and clearly made a beeline for the friend, you couldn't have been that bad or your OH would've dragged you home.

All you can do is take is a lesson to watch what you are drinking, and always eat something beforehand, the difference can be startling.

And, I'd be very nice indeed to your OH from now until it's forgotten, give it a week or two....

Yes do that! He'd be an arse not yt? forgive. Talk through with your dh. It's got to be much worse going through it alone!

Me again. DH and I aren't in the best state, he had v brief fling 4 years ago with my friend. Trust is an issue as you can imagine. Was I sub consciously seeking revenge? It was 4 years ago but clearly it is a time I will never forget. This is so awful, apparently I also talked very explicitly about my sex life, I could go in, but it just gets worse and worse. I vow never, ever to get that drunk again, not that I even meant to. The friend looked at me with such disgust I feel like trash. Hate me.

Don't worry, your DP is clearly putting it down to the alcohol and moving on.

You should as well.

Drinkers remorse is a horrible thing. Talk it over with your DH, might not be as bad as you think? If this is going to haunt you, tackle it full on. Texting is your friend. Explain to the friend that you hadn't eaten. Aplogise. You don't normally behave like that and try to make light of it. One of the reasons I don't get drunk anymore is because of this feeling the next day! My mouth just runs away with me after a few. Makes me cringe. Have a and

Can't believe I am writing more, can I be forgiven? Why hadn't DH said something? Should I apologise again to DH friend? Or never ever contact him again. Hating me even more. Aaaaaarrrgh!!!!!

Apologise and then move on. That's it.

Course you can be forgiven. Sounds like you need a hug from your DH.

Wow! Thank you so much for your kind replies. There is more that I said, DH friend who I will now name as Nick, said I was giving all the boys marks out of 10 and gave him zip, before making it clear that I fancied him. Have texted DH and said sorry, he said I am not a disaster which is really sweet. I know I wouldn't be that forgiving. Not going to text/contact nick. I have said sorry and told him that I am mortified by my behaviour, that's when he said I was like a stalker and gave me the loom that he was repulsed. Bugger, bugger, bugger. WTF the other party goers thought? No idea how I will face them. Shit, fuck, wank not gonna be able to stop thinking/stressing about this.

You are so not the only one to have done something like that. I still cringe at some of the things I have done.

Apologise and move on. Don't drink so much at parties and make sure you line your stomach!!!

The day after beer fear is always the worst!!!

You will feel a bit better tomorrow and a bit better the day after that. We've all done it but it blows over.

Not loom but look! Actually I now think Nick is v mean. He could have laughed it off and if my DH isn't upset at all why should he be? I would find it quite a compliment is someone fancied me?!? Ok. I can get through this, please tell me more drunk stories to make me feel even better. I have never, ever been compared to a stalker! It was one night and I was drunk, why is Nick so cross, disgusted with me? Is there more that I don't know about? Bugger, mini flash back of terrible behaviour.....will never, ever contact Nick again, will delete his number now!!!!

You feel stupid but make light of it, 'You know me, two glasses of wine and I'm anybody's.'

I agree make light of it and admit to nothing. Say the whole night is a blank and you remember nothing. And laugh and say your DH's friend is the last person on earth you could fancy.

Theawfuldaughter what else do you think? Need more advise. Over thinking everything. What if he responded to my terrible flirting? Why was I taking such a terrible risk with my marriage? Feel like running away. Thankfully I don't feel like drinking. Still can't believe the look he gave me. I know from DH that Nick gets wasted and doesn't even know how he gets home, so how can he judge me so harshly! Bollocks!!!!!

He could have laughed it off and if my DH isn't upset at all why should he be?

Embarrassed? Humiliated? Objectified? Angry that you put him in this position (as his mate's girlfriend).

he's had to peel me off blokes that I'm grinding on at parties

I'd rather be t-total.

Ok. Didn't delete the number but did send an apology. Will update if get response. Have a feeling he won't bother to respond!

he's had to peel me off blokes that I'm grinding on at parties

Oh my, your OH must be very liberal.

OK I ended up out with some people from work I didn't know that well. It was a good laugh but I had total memory loss at the end and woke up in one kind soul's spare room......because......one of the group, let's call him Tom, was quite young and fit and apparently when they tried to put me in a taxi and asked me my address all I would say was 'Tom's house' and lurch at him. No no rumbelina, where do you live? Tom's house . And so on....

I was mortified but held my head high and went to his office and apologised. I felt sick as a dog but he was fine about it fortunately and I got some points from the others for being entertaining.

most probably everyone else was drunk too and will all be having similar flashbacks! Nick sounds like a twat.

Ok, nick does have every right to be upset. FWIW I haven't grinded up to anyone.

I have said sorry in person and via text. Before this we actually had a nice, quite friendly relationship. Clearly I have ruined this. Will talk to DH tonight, we are quite open with each other, will of course say sorry again to him. Feel really, really angry with myself, I know I will fret about this for a long time. I find it really hard to forgive myself anything, bugger,in tears again. Pull yourself together, kids to feed and entertain.