How do I move things from getting along together to getting it ON together?

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Regular. N/C. All the usual blah.

Work in a large multinational. Have a senior manager who doesn't manage me. But for various reasons we have to work together in some areas.

Have engaged in what I think is flirting by email and on the phone - he emails evenings/weekends/when he's on holiday and not all about work stuff.

We have a standing "in" joke.

I am junior, work on a different site and am going to have no reason shortly to contact him, as the project we are working on is coming to an end.

I really like him and I think he's flirting with me. My colleagues have commented that they think he likes me.

What do I do next? I don't want to pester him and make a tit of myself if I'm wrong, but neither do I want to let him slip through my fingers if he does like me.

I like him. A lot. Both in our 40's and both definitely divorced.

Needy bump

Have you asked him if he wants to go for a drink some time? Perhaps to celebrate the end of the project?

No!!! I couldn't do that!! He's so senior it's not true compared to me! if he wasn't really senior then I would but he's mega important and I am not at all.

Although we do banter and he does owe me a sticky bun and a coffee for a favour I did him

I'd go for an email along the lines of "I'll miss talking when this project's over - we must arrange a coffee sometime" and see what happens. Up front but subtle enough that he can brush it off if he chooses to fit whatever reason.

Ok so something like

"I'll miss our emails when this is all over - don't forget you owe me a cake and a coffee sometime"

Can you engineer a group night out, invite lots of colleagues and make sure he's there?
A couple of drinks (not too many) might loosen you both up

He wouldn't really go to a work night out, nor would I really be able to organise one. He's very reserved usually, which is what my colleagues find amusing, that I take the piss out of him and he responds in kind.

Your email sounds good. Best sent after you've been emailing about the project, obviously - out of the blue might be rather too keen!

Right so, plan is work emails chit chat and then drop it in and see what he says?

Is that ok? Or too pushy?

how I think it sounds ideal!! Go for it!

Good luck!

I didn't have a reason to contact him today.

I need to make one up!

Hmm, I wonder if he's reserved then would just hinting at a coffee be enough? Some men really do need an unmistakable green light something like you need an excuse to see him on his own, outside of work, maybe appears innocent but then he discovers he's really enjoying himself kind of thing?

Does he have any hobbies you can feign interest in? (Just thinking aloud here), to give you an in. You know, then at some point you can give him "the look" and just watch the penny drop..

Or you could just ask him for coffee. I'm going for one, do you want to join me? Nothing wrong with that.

I wouldn't worry too much about the seniority thing. A previous girlfriend of mine was my boss's boss when we got together. Kind of sexy..

Come on howdo - I bet there's some slightly unresolved aspect of something you could ask about... (or even a "sorry to check but did you say you'd contact X about Y/that we should do X or Y - I know we discussed it but can't find the email...")

I have an update!!

We have agreed a coffee next time he's on the site I work at AND we have swapped personal mobile nos.

Result! Well done op!

Good work howdo

Woop! Well done, howdo - sounds very promising indeed. She who dares, eh?

I wasn't even subtle

Just in case you might need it here's my personal mobile number.

Marking place, be brave op, he's clearly interested!

What now??!!! What if he doesn't text??

(he has been texting today - just twice to see how my day was going) I know he has meetings tonight until late and conference calls so I don't expect to hear from him.

Well done, sounds good. Does he go to your site often?

Tinks - it depends - some weeks he could be there nearly every day, or he might go a fortnight without being there.

It sounds like he likes you and he's texted you already. He's at the site often enough that you shouldn't have to wait too long for the coffee then. Good luck!

OOh well done, fingers crossed for you