Nose Hairs and how to ask him

[MatureUniStudentGraduated]

To de fluff his nostrils?

Second date tomorrow evening. This chap is the kindest, sweetest man and I want him to kiss me BUT to cut his nose hairs before he does as they are protruding. He's old, I'm old, but neither of us are that old that I can overlook his nose hairs, and he has quite a bush.

So how, before my the third date he has planned for us on Sunday (picnic, at the seaside watching music on the pier - he's a romantic and it's heavenly) do broach the issue of his nose bush??! Or can I even??!

Not sure how you could, tbh. Not before you've even kissed. Bit catch 22 that though.

I am place marking to see what wit and wisdom comes up.. this is a compliment to wiser mumsnetters. Not a snarky comment.

I have been with my partner for 3 years and just say Mr Frog you really need to sort your snout out.

(and hope that my chin stragglers are under control)

He's had a number of girlfriends since his divorce two years ago, surely they noticed?? He's such a gem. And I really want to see how this goes with him but I need his nose sorted by Sunday, as I have designs on him, whilst walking hand in hand on the pier!

You're just going to have to email him a link to a personal grooming tool that he can buy in Boots tomorrow.

Well I just hand DH the tweezers, but we have been married for 42 years. Not very helpful, I am afraid. Good luck!

I'd be all fluffy and fluttery :) and say something like "oh this is really embarrassing having to tell you this, but there's something caught on the hairs of your nose, I don't want to embarrass you but thought you would want me to tell you".

Or snip them while he's asleep.

Best bet is to have a kiss then giggle and say Oo your tickling me. Two birds with one stone and all that ;)

I had this issue once, but we were both much younger. I just told him he needed to deal with his nose hair because I wanted to shag him, but the nose put me off.
They were gone within the hour.

Good approach catmint.

I love your style Catmint!

But I just don't know how to deal with this!

Do you have any mutual friends op? Maybe you could get a friend to present him with one of those battery operated grooming tools as a pre-date gift. If not, maybe post him one, label it second prize. He will hopefully be racking his brain, trying to remember entering a competition as he mows his snez.

Be very careful what you wish for OP.

When I was married one of our friends has copious amounts of nose hair and clearly used the sort of grooming device BeforeAndAfter has suggested. His nostrils, although neatly trimmed, looked as if he had a couple of grey coconut mats stuck up there.

I used to be overcome by a sort of horrible fascination with his nose hair every time I saw him. Still makes me shudder when I think of it.

Perhaps you can snuggle up close, whip out your tweezers and just pluck out the more obvious ones.

Love the raffle prize idea! No, no mutal friends. I just can't think of a nice way to say that he needs to trim his nose. How can men not be aware of these things??

Well, let's turn this on its head.

A bloke comes on here to ask us how to tell his girlfriend to get rid of her 'tache. I reckon we'd tell him to fuck off and stop being so controlling (let alone superficial).

I hear what you're saying - nose hair freaks me out and I have a bogey phobia. However, it's not your place, especially this early on, to try and have a say in his grooming.

I cannot begin to imagine the pain of tweezing internal nose hair

The Filly - I rather like him, and he definitely likes me, a lot. His nose hairs will scupper what he wants, me, as I can't get past them. So it is beneficial to us both if I can find a kind way to get this sorted. That's the advice I need, not a debate as to my rights to comment on his grooming. Positive help is required please.

Okay, there are lots of positive suggestions for you upthread.

I'm actually rather with TheFilly here, it's not your place really yet and you'd sound rude however you tried to tackle it. You sort of said it in your reply to TheFilly - you "rather" like him and he definitely likes you. If you "really" liked him then the nose hairs wouldn't be the main focus here. I think, because you are enjoying the attention you are trying to like him more than you really do.

What if he said to you that he wanted to like you but your eyebrows were just too bushy?? You'd want to tell him to go take a running jump.

I see your point, but this is the real world and I don't want to miss what I suspect could be something special for both of us, because of nose hairs. I can't overlook it, and am not superficial enough to throw the towel in over nose hairs, hence the asked for guidance. As for liking the attention and liking him more than I do - I don't understand you. There are many topics where advice is sought of MN because they cannot overlook something in the other person but want to be with that person.

Do you actually have any advice about my post Tinks as that's what I am interested in, how, if there is a way, to broach the subject, as I'm not as brave as Catmint to follow her advice!

None whatsoever only that I do find you superficial, you came here wanting everyone to agree with you.

Only on mumsnet. My OP asked a question and everyone has kindly made suggestions on how to deal with my question. It would be superficial if I didn't acknowledge this issue, and not see him just because of his nose hairs. I want to see him, but it's an issue for me I'd like to address. I have no idea what you are on about with this agreeing with me. My OP didn't ask for agreement. It asked for advice on nose hairs. Clearly you have no advice but happily others did, which has been very helpful.

funny how people get angry when one hits a nerve.

Kooks like we've really got up Mature's nose, eh Tinks?

*looks