Nose Hairs and how to ask him

[MatureUniStudentGraduated]

To de fluff his nostrils?

Second date tomorrow evening. This chap is the kindest, sweetest man and I want him to kiss me BUT to cut his nose hairs before he does as they are protruding. He's old, I'm old, but neither of us are that old that I can overlook his nose hairs, and he has quite a bush.

So how, before my the third date he has planned for us on Sunday (picnic, at the seaside watching music on the pier - he's a romantic and it's heavenly) do broach the issue of his nose bush??! Or can I even??!

Seems like it TheFilly

I'm bemused. I spelt out what I had asked for in the OP as I thought you hadn't understood.

Not sure why you are bemused here OP. Something as superficial as nose hair at the moment just should not be a big enough issue not to see him again, it smacks of "if you do that then I will like you" which isn't a good trait to have, just saying.

What's the next thing going to be?

I've started seeing this woman but have noticed that she has some pubic hair that sticks out of her knickers. I want her to remove it and just don't think i can get past it if she doesn't. Surely she will because she wants me? How can I get her to?

Sorry, OP but I think it would be really rude. Give it a few months until you've established your boundaries and cemented your relationship a bit more. Even then, does it matter? Never get with someone with a view to change them. Or in the hope their nose hair will be gone!

He doesn't want to trim them, or doesn't notice them, or he would. Basically you're asking how to change him, this "one little thing" that you feel would benefit you both. You might get him to do it, maybe he doesn't know what tool to use, but he might resent it. I know I would appreciate being told something similar "shave your legs more often" or something. It's insulting and judgy.

All that said, you ask for advice on how to approach it. Does he have any other facial hair? Could you say something like "I really want to kiss you but facial hair makes me break out in a rash", or "I love that you're taller than me but I see a lot of nose hair, do you want me to get you a trimmer"?

You're older, your hair is going to get "fun" (if it hasn't already) as well, so I'd be wary of setting this sort of brutal honestly re personal grooming.

I think you're being a bit harsh! If I was on a date and he had nose hair I'd be staring at it all night - yeah maybe I'm shallow but I groom myself so why shouldn't they? If Mr Stupid has a dangler then I rip it out...he'd be horrified himself and no, not because of me!

Ah but stupidhead you both obviously like to be groomed then, which is fine. I personally do too but I'd never dream of asking someone to change just for me... I'd go for a groomed person too.

Tell him this anecdote about a friend who met this bloke with wild nose hair. She really liked him but couldn't get on down with him because of said nasal tufts. If he's on your wavelength he'll be horrified and ask you if you find his hirsute nasal cavities a turn off. You will raise your perfectly groomed eyebrows and say with innocence: "ooh I hadn't noticed but now you mention it you could do with a nasal prune". Next time you see him you can ravish him without being unintentionally tickled.

If he's not on your wavelength and doesn't take your cue then it's better to find out now.

PS while you're at it check out his ear hair - it typically turns up with flowing nose hair. May as well go for a batch job if need be.

If he's got a sense of humour then bring it up in a jokey way, laughing about yourself getting old and falling apart and how men get 'hair'...

You might be worrying over nothing, he might have dealt with it himself by the next date!

And me and Mr Stupid night sound vain but we're not! Although he was running around the house earlier in pain as he'd caught his balls with the kitchen scissors when trimming his downstairs hair!

Hope you don't use your kitchen scissors to cut up your bacon or open food packets Stupidhead.

I wondered when the thread would turn into' oh imagine if a man came on here asking advice on his girlfriends tache'
as I mentioned up thread I suffer from a chin beard. I like to be groomed. My partner would jate it if I had more of a beard than him.
If he let his nostril hair grow wild it would put me right off and I would have to say something. Thats just me though. If you want to sport a tache and a full on 70's bush great!
I like to be groomed, my partner likes me groomed and I like him groomed too.
OP is the same and thats her choice.

Yes, OP is the same and is entitled to her tastes. But so is the man in question.

Speaking as one who doesn't mind being reminded that the filters are clogging...Boots baby fingernail scissors. Small for the crevices, rounded ends to avoid the "OWWW! FUUUCK!" moments, and cheap.

Stupidhead: High five your OH from me, and tell him he's got bigger balls than me.

I was much more confident back in the day!

These days....not so much!

I quite like the raffle prize idea.

Practical suggestion - get him a gift voucher for a Turkish shave? It's something every guy should experience at least once anyway, but it includes a quick lit taper up each nostril that gets rid of all hairs instantly.

My advice would be to mention it but dont get too upset if he says there is something about you that he finds distasteful.

I don't think you can mention it. It's just rude. There is no possible way that it could not be rude. ESPECIALLY since you barely know this guy.

My partner has some nasal hair issues, and he's even said in the past "god imagine if you had this? How rank would that be" and I was like "There's really no difference.....". He just doesn't care, lol. But he's never asked me to change anything about myself, so I wouldn't do so to him.

If he asked for my advice I would be like "OKAY. You sit here, and I will be back with tweezers and nail scissors in thirty seconds. Give me three minutes to finish".

But it's different as I fell in love with him - inappropriate hair and all. Sometimes in my head I'm like "Why. why won't you just deal with that?" but it doesn't change anything about my desire for him or my love for him.

If you really can't get over this issue then you need to call it quits.

I think Turkish shave idea is brilliant. Then mention how good he looks sans hair

If you do tell him, don't suggest plucking - hurts like feck. Trimming with sharp nail scissors (carefully!) will do the trick.

Both have a few drinks - get a bit touchy feel - circle his mouth with your red painted finger nails, then pause and say "Where did those naughty little hairs come from?" pointing to said hairs. "Would you like me to pluck them out or will you remove them.... I know they'll tickle me so much I won't be able to concentrate on seducing you."

Miriam - I see where you were going with that but....it reads as super creepy!!

"naughty little hairs"?!? Is this a Carry On film?

You can't ask him to remove his nose hair after one date. It's totally rude and just ridiculous. I'm sorry but if it puts you off that much then don't kiss him but you can't ask him to groom himself before kissing him.

Ewwww Miriam did that sound sexy in your head? Because it didn't read that way

I don't think it's appropriate to ask someone to change their appearance after one date. But if it's that important to you just ask him upfront. Are you prepared to hear some suggestions from him to you? How would it make you feel?