ExP wanting to take DS on holiday

[Solasum]

Back in May I had a thread because absentee ExP wanted to take going to be 9mo DS to his parents' house overseas, and leave him there for a week in September. I said no. People here agreed (Phew).

At the time, I said that Ex could possibly take DS to stay with them for two nights only, on the understanding that he would be there all the time himself, and that he would spend a lot more time with DS beforehand.

It is now now, and ex has said he would like to take DS for the two nights, and will stay with him. But, he has if anything spent even less time with DS since May (maybe 4 hours this month).

I have major reservations. Ex knows nothing about DS routine, or about feeding him, getting him to nap etc. DS is still bf morning, late afternoon and at night sometimes repeatedly . I have yet to leave him overnight.

Ex thinks I have moved the goalposts. I think I haven't. He asked when I would trust him to take DS away on his own if not now, and to be honest I could not answer. I wonder if I am being precious, though?
FWIW I have said I will take DS out to visit the family, but only if ex is around as well.

That sounds good, OP - but, I really would contact the relevant embassy first, explain the situation and just ask in theory what would happen if he tried to prevent you leaving with the baby.

If it's Greece - I don't know the exact details but there is definitely something about the father having full rights to the child in the event of a break-up, i..e the child has to stay in Greece if the father lives there, so there could be trouble if your baby was brought into the country, it might be difficult to take him out again. Please check it out before you bring him. Someone can correct me if I am wrong!

Don't do it, OP. No court would separate a breast feeding infant from its mother for such a long period. And as others have pointed out, there is a definite risk of child abduction. You could regret this for the rest of your life if you let him talk you into it. Listen to your instincts where your infant is concerned.

You have inspired me to tell him I want him to pay us 15% (currently 10%) going forward. He has agreed, but does not understand 'my tone'.

Oops, Solasum, I missed your update. That sounds like a very satisfactory compromise. Good for you taking a firm line on maintenance.

Ex is seeing DS with his gf today; and has asked me not to mention the planned trip. I assume because he has 'forgotten' to mention it to her. Not quite sure how to respond really.

An awkward handover conversation with gf about holidays, with ex hovering clearly anxious in case I drop him in it. She obviously thinks I am more than a bit strange. Really cannot see on what possible basis he would have lied about the visit to the gps.

Well, because he doesn't want her to know he's going on holiday with his ex and child as a happy family to see his parents, of course.

Which I can even kind of understand... but he's an arse to lie. And it will bite him on the bum.

So just ignore it, tell him you won't lie for him so next time do pickup alone, and relish the thought that this particular liar is no longer your partner.