psychic readings for relationship advice

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Has anyone been to one where they were looking for guidance on a relationship and did it help?

I did and she told me positive stuff. I felt content and relaxed and put my doubts as to wether this relationship is right for me as we have had a stressful time of late. DP went on another date for a laugh as he would be very sceptical about this stuff but he was given similar reading to me. We compared notes. She specifically mentioned me as his soul mate and my name. However since he has gone he has been acting very strange. He is quieter and cancels doing things and frankly I feel he was dissapointed to hear I was his soulmate! I have asked him how he felt when he was told this information and said he doesn't take that advice from a psychic. However everything else in his reading he took quiet seriously and was quiet freaked at the accuracy.

1- psychic readings are bollocks
2- he doesn't sound very keen on being your soulmate
3- soul mates are bollocks

You forgot 4. Complete close mindedness is bollocks.

But I appreciate your time and effort at replying.

Have you asked him why he is acting funny/odd?

Have both of you taken the reading as factual? Do either of you believe in it?

No cos it's a load of old shite.
The con artist medium will have told him you were his soul mate (boak) because of your reading.
He doesn't want to be with someone who would base their future on said bollox.
Quite-quiet.
Hth.

Oh scientific evidence and lack of any actual proof isn't close minded.

Regarding whether a relationship is right for me, I'd rather use my intuition and common sense.

I think it's getting a bit damp under the bridge at the moment for the OP.

ohwhatf - I would have agreed with you before I went myself. I went as a friend was going too and more for the ride. So I had no intention of taking what was told me literallly. However this lady is used by the Police as to the whereabouts of missing people etc. She is highly regarded in her field. I can honestly say afterwards i was quiet taken aback by the information and names given to me in the reading. It was factual information not general.
Quitelikely - I have asked him if it threw him considering he too went for the laugh after I had said i was taken aback. I suspected he wanted to say see, told you so, load of waffle. But he too was given information that he was quiet taken aback over. He still says it's ridiculous but comments regularly on how factual she was about other areas and it has thrown him. Basically I feel he has been told advice on what he should do and he now doesn't like that. He would be quiet independant in his thinking. So nagging him to tell me won't work. But it's very frustrating and altough I am glad I went myself for other areas I wish he hadn't.

I'm not closed minded thanks, I'm a sceptic rationalist and I believe in empirical evidence rather than blind faith with no logical basis other than wish fulfilment. Anyway, if he's acting like a cock now doesn't that belie the soulmate issue?

Absolute bollocks, and more importantly, why are you with a man that you think doesn't even care about you???

I haven't consulted anyone like this myself but do know some who have and the results vary. What i can say is, it's always nice to hear positive stuff, you felt encouraged and probably thought it money well spent, I won't knock what other people find helpful.

However if you believe avidly in soul mates you no doubt think a true soulmate should be ideally compatible and pretty well flawless. Your expectations are sky high and whatever the recent stresses were about, you're disappointed by his reaction and behaviour since the reading.

He is the same man you were with, before he went to that reading, with all his quirks and flaws and imperfections. Those stresses you allude to, would you say they've all been resolved? Or are they still lingering?

You don't need a third party to tell you whether or not things are working out with this man. Try not to put pressure on DP and trust your own judgment.

ohwhatf - I agree with you up to a point. However why is it that so many people go to church on sunday to pray to a God they have never seen and has never been proven exists!!
so to be fair there are many unexplainable things in life.

• However this lady is used by the Police as to the whereabouts of missing people etc. No she isn't. In 2006, a group called UK Sceptics formally asked every police force if they had ever used a psychic. All the replies were a predictable "no" – except one. The Metropolitan Police admitted that in one case in 1965 a psychic had "played a major part". A 37-year-old haulage operator called Thomas "Ginger" Marks had mysteriously disappeared and Freddie Foreman, a gangster who worked for the Krays, was acquitted of the murder in 1975. But in 2000 he admitted the killing and that Marks's body had been thrown in the sea. from the Guardian website.

Why don't you talk to him? Taking the advice of a stranger while ignoring what is in front of you is stupid isn't it?

Someone who is quiet and cancels things suggests he is backing away from the relationship as opposed to a 'soulmate' - which is a load of bollocks anyway.

Playing devil's advocate anything more recent than 2006 Ohwhatfuckeryisthis?

No,there are things in life that can be explained with proof.

agree with butterflybuttons - why not just have a conversation with him? this is like those annoying film plots where 45 minutes of arsing about could have been saved by just saying 'let's talk about this'.

psychics aren't psychic, by the way. although they can spot a full purse through a handbag at 50 paces..

If you believe or not, I doubt very much that the psychic is qualified to give relationship advice.
It sounds like your relationship has hit rocky ground, so it's time to forget what she said and work out what you and your dp want out of this, regardless of any psychic predictions.

Donkey - thank you I appreciate that. I don't need a third party you are right and generally my instincts and common sense works fine to help me though my day! however times have been stressful and I know some people discuss their concerns and relationships with close girl friends which would be a third party. Its natural to want to seek a little assurance at times.
I don't believe in soul mates. I don't think people are put on this earth and you must seek out your destined soul mate. what i believe is that people are compatible and must still work at a relationship. At the moment we are struggling due to work stress and it has effected his investment for want of a better word in this relationship. I feel I am doing more recently. Coupled with him going quiet now, it bothers me and I don't know exactly how to approach this. Considering the bloody reading was so black and white and factual.

ex wife: that made me laugh even though you probably didn't expect that reaction. Yes i hate long drawn out dramas or sub-titled films at that too....
we have discussed. he knows what I want. he has said it's what he wants too. pre and post reading. but i'm afraid the actions aint matching the words. So it's confusing.

I don't know exactly how to approach this
You approach it by dropping the talk about the reading

You want him to engage more with the reality of your relationship so stop referring to something that isn't based in reality. Seriously if you are that emotionally invested in a reading from a stranger then I think you have to take a step back and ask why. Good relationships don't need validation from an outsider whether that outsider is your dmum, your friend, or Mystic Meg.

Load of bollocks. Used by the police as to the whereabouts of missing people? What missing people has she found? Give us a case where she's found someone? In fact, show us a case where a so-called psychic has found a missing person - despite the many claims to have done so?

Highly regarded in her field? Yeah, by gullible people and other con artists.

James Randi has a million dollars available to anyone who can prove psychic phenomenon. So far .. no takers. You seriously believe this woman has some kind of paranormal ability to tell you who your soulmate is? Just look at how ridiculous that actually is.

If they had this ability they would be employed by every company and agency in the world - all police forces would have a resident psychic, goverments etc. It would be a highly respected mainstream occupation. They wouldn't be reading fortunes for gullible people.

It's called cold reading and some of them are very good at it. Doesn't mean that they've got any more psychic powers than your average lump of wood.

"Is there anybody here called John?"

"yes, yes I'm called John!"

"how does she do it? It's a miracle"

donkeyjust did a quick google, so not sure. But I think if they did then it would be all over some papers.
And I'm going play devil's advocate too. Maybe he is feeling a bit pressured with all this talk about soul mates and perhaps he feels uncomfortable about a relationship with someone who does ask for relationship advice from a "psychic".

Putting he reading to one side as it's going to turn into one of those tiresum debates and derails your thread.

What do you want to happen now OP? It might to time for a heart to heart.