think my boyfriend likes men. help!

[proudmam14]

I think my boyfriend is into men because I have found gay porn on his phone numerous times and recently found some explicit 'gay' photos of himself on the bed on his phone. I don't want to ask him about it because he will turn it on me and tell me I have been snooping in his 'private' phone and the kick off asking if I have read his messages but he always makes jokes about gay guys like his best friend who is obviously gay and they're too close for my liking for them just being friends. I don't know if it links to his childhood as 'things' happened when he was young to him (if you understand what I mean) he also loves anal an awful lot.

Possibly lying on the bed with an "I heart men" T-shirt?

Possibly only if the "I heart men" was on the back of said T-shirt or if it was on a hanger in the background. Maybe he just cherishes photos of himself gripping his impressive hard-on for purely innocent reasons.

Given that the OP has seen gay porn pics on his phone she'd be more likely to recognise her bloke in a similar type of pose than the rest of us.

opening his arsecheeks for a full on homo-erotic money shot??

"ask him if theres a special reason he hasnt told you that hes bisexual, considering that you're supposed to be in a relationship with each other."

This.

Beyond that, if he's watching porn, deal with it as you would him watching any other porn.

If he's going on dating or hookup websites, deal with it as you would him going on any other websites of that kind.

If he is attracted to men as well as women, that does slightly increase the number of people who he could be cheating with, but doesn't necessarily increase the chance that he is.

The lack of honesty is the bigger problem.

I don't get the assumption he's gay. As long as you guys have a passionate relationship then my assumption would be he's bi, so as long as he's faithful to you, what's the issue?

Go and read up on the Kinsey Scale - sexuality is a sort of scale not a straight/gay thing.

Open and non-judging communication is always the way to go.

Let's look at the other issue here..

Why are you looking through his phone? Do you not trust him?

Why would he leave these photo's on a phone which is unlocked and left alone with you?

Summer holidays...

Just talk to him about it.

If you can't talk to him about something as important as this, then the relationship is dead and gone to begin with.