Ok will try to keep this short. I getting married next week and the past four weeks have been difficult for my STBH and myself re: his stag do (got a private dance kept it secret I found out on my hen was devestated just had a baby 4 weeks previous to the stag emcs)
Anyway I get a lot of childcare help from my mum and dad very very close. I don't get on with his mum for numerous reasons. From we got engaged she has complained about everything demanded I had his sister as a bridesmaid despite have 4 sisters of my own. When I found out I was pregnant after going engaged for two years she asked ME and only me 'why weren't you on the pill'.
Throughout my pregnancy none of his family text or rang to see how I was instead his older sister left bitchy comments on my fbook page that resulted in the whole family deleting me. Now this was because I thanked my parents in a status for helping us with our house move. She wanted to know why they weren't thanked...even though they didn't help us move!!!!
So I seen the family maybe 5 times in my pregnancy they don't call to our house. Then I or grief for not calling to see his mum more even though I was heavily pregnant and working sometimes 60 hour weeks.
Then my friebds threw me a surprise baby shower two weeks before due date and didn't invite his family (they don't know them) that caused me to move out heavily pregnant as OH was livid as his mum was 'heartbroke'
Didn't hear or see her until baby was born first night at hospital
She was fine. Second night she came up effed and blinded because my family and friends were there and she felt she should be having alone time so she left. She then came up to the house the day after we got out but stormed out because my sister was there too.
I had just had an ecs my family were helping. They never once offered to help out.
So again that behaviour brushed under the carpet...fast forward to my hen night. She blanked me, started on my sister (chief bridesmaid)asked why there was nothing about my OHs family on the wee cards shed made up my sister told her 'this is falls night not OHs he's had his stag. Then she started on my friebds called them poisonous and thoughtless bitches for not inviting her to the baby shower had them in tears. Then the older sister attacked my best friend after it came out about the private dance and we were annoyed at her brother so she decided to lash out?!?!
Two weeks ago the mum told us she wasn't giving what she had said towards the wedding. Then last week we called in with the baby she refused to speak to me because 'I won't leave the baby to be minded by her' so I walked out. She is still going on about minding the baby alone he is 12weeks and she's seen him 8/9 times.
Apart from the above my other reasons why I won't leave the baby with her are:
The house is filthy
She has three dogs which she refuses to put out while I am there although I am allergic
She fosters a special needs child who can be quiet volatile.
Oh and she hates me!!!
Am I wrong after another argument today with OH I'm at my wit send