Anyone got divorced due to lack of affection?

[tisrainingagain]

Have posted lots about my difficult relationship with h, but the question I wanted to ask here is whether lack of affection (deeply entrenched) and lack of communication (h basically talking to me as little as possible) are good enough reasons to get divorced?

It has got to the point where I have a constant knot in my stomach if he is around because I feel so lonely and so deliberately excluded from his life (while he carries on being very loving to the dc so it is not as if he is incapable of affection).

Affection and intimacy is the whole purpose of having relationships. If that is lacking then you might as well be alone. It is cruel to withhold affection and I agree with the poster who said it is a form of emotional abuse.

thanks Penelope for sharing your story.Many of us do stay as the better the devil you know thing pops into our minds.Also the thought it might be us...i quite like doing my own thing and rarely if ever go to parties not everyone is a social butterfly.At least i can " blame" my affair when DH is snubbing me although he says it was only 1 yr he tried to make me suffer.Im reading with interest others opinions as i was brought up to believe that you just stuck things out>TIS do you ever think your husband may be toughing it out so he can see the kids without fear of limited access ? apologies if im wrong but i would do anything to see mine grow up.

Its called mental cruelty and men get away with this behaviour, it happened also to me been divorced for years now , not been easy but not having him in my life or house is a daily relief

I can’t believe my 4 year old thread has been resurrected!

Just to say that I am in fact now getting divorced. It has taken almost a year, and has been traumatic, but I think it was completely the right decision.

I’m so glad you made the right decision for you. I’ve been reading all sorts of threads similar to this and deciding wether to bring an end to my 20 year marriage because of similar issues ( and then some). How did the kids handle it all?

Glad you decided to do it. How are things now? Are you happier?

It is all still In the process of happening and it hasn’t been easy. I do think I had no other choice however and think it was the right decision. The kids are generally okay, but I think it will be better for them once things are properly settled.

H got into a new relationship literally two seconds after it became clear that the divorce was going ahead, and while we were in the same house, so that says a lot I think.

Hi, well done for getting out! I saw this was a zombie and wondered if you did manage to leave. Very glad you did, giving me hope! 😀

Crikey. He wasn’t hanging around then! Where did he drag the new woman up from? Shows you made the right decision

Where did he drag the new woman up from?

Yes I don’t know. But he has had a lot more “freedom” than I have since the split, as I am with the dc a lot more than he is - for the moment anyway. It’s all and feels shameful for the moment. Hopefully it will get better.