I have had a good amount of experience with my mates cheating. There are many variables that need to be taken into consideration when making your final conclusion of what you believe happened.
- Do trust your gut instincts:
What we consider to be a "gut instinct or feeling" actually originates from your brains ability to pick up on cues that are not natural in response for the situation. For example, the accused/cheater was seen flirting earlier in the evening (not normal). If the person is normally a flirt, then your red flag for "flirting" wont be as heavily weighed as a variable to support your argument. However, if the two persons that are being accused are in a hotel room with the door locked and you bang on the door and.then eventually obtain a card key that unlocks the door and they are in the bed together, then it is ALMOST conclusive that cheating had taken place. This is where your instincts will kick in.
What were their reactions as you entered the room? Pay attention to their facial expressions. Their faces will say it all.
Did they verbally say anything? Positive verbal indicators are as simple as an apology to you OR a noticeable amount of effort put forth in trying to understand how the situation would probably look!
When a person is approached (not blamed) and asked to explain a situation where they are undoubtedly caught with both hands in the cookie jar, anger is not a natural or logical response. Consoling the individual who's become distraught typically will be priority #1.
You're caught in a hotel room bed and not only that but YOU must have heard the banging on the door prior to being walked in on. Listen to your instincts. When things don't rationally or logically don't make sense, there are only two things to consider.
- Your partner cheats.
- You are now single.
The above story is true. Respect and validate yourself. You are smart enough to know that your feeling terrible, move forward and move on. Get therapy if needed...