Sorry about the change of name, I'm sure some of you will guess who I am and it isn't a secret it's just that dp knows my name on here and I didn't want him finding this too easily.
Dp and I are not getting on at all. The main problem is his work, he is always there and never here with me and the children.
At the moment he is buying a new unit and announced that he had to find an absolutely huge deposit to secure the unit (enough to buy another house). This isn't how much the mortgage will be on the unit, this is just the deposit.
He has told me that I shouldn't send the children to nursery anymore and my mum shouldn't come round to help as we won't be able to afford it. He will be taking a lot less money each month and I'm supposed to cut back accordingly. He tells me that this is for the children's future and they will be ok financially oneday. His will says a different story though, if anything happens to him, his business partner gets the entire business, we don't get anything. So I don't see how it is for their future.
Anyway the main problem at the moment is that he won't tell him how he is raising this huge deposit. Because I flipped out when he told me how much it was, he nows says he isn't telling me anything. It's none of my business, it doesn't affect me and I don't need to worry about it. I think it does affect me, financially it is already and if he is signing himself up for loads of debts surely that is a concern for both of us.
So my question is, do I have the right to know where he is getting the money from? This is the latest in a long line of problems and I think I am probably going to be on the phone to a solicitor today to find out if I have any rights. I have told dp this and he doesn't seem to care, which I suppose is a good indication of the state of our relationship!
Thanks for reading and I'd appreciate any views, for or against.