Crush has made contact...

[Delphinegreen]

I've known this guy 4/5 years always had a crush on him, I'd class him as an acquaintance.

Last Christmas for the first time both single - me 6 months, him 2 we met for a drink. It was a little shy & stilted. Nonetheless I invited him out again but it fizzled, a bit of game playing on his part then I called him on his behaviour & told him I wasn't interested in games/friendship then cut contact. I reasoned he wasn't that into me.

Today out of the blue he contacts me to say hi, I haven't replied yet. He's in my distant social circle. Do I reply bright & breezy & non committal? Don't owe him anything but don't want to be rude.

I obviously still like this guy, I think about him a lot but am wary of been drawn in to another unneeded emotional drama but do you give someone another chance? How do you set things on the right footing or will the pattern just repeat?

It just might be that he's interested in a woman who doesn't fall for any tricks.

It never hurts to be friendly, so why not see what happens?

If you still like him, I would.

Game players play games. It's what they do.

Ignore him is what I'd do. He was an arse to you before so why give him the chance again.

Because she might get to have sex with someone she really fancies?

Like I said - I would

I would too

Just keep it easy-going to start with and keep an eye out for game playing.

But life is for living. If you fancy him give it a whirl. Entirely possible to do that while looking out for yourself at the same time.

go for it if he is single.

He is only saying hi!

I'd be friendly and see where it goes. Back off again if it does seem like he's playing games.

This But life is for living. If you fancy him give it a whirl.

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I'd be friendly and see where it goes. Back off again if it does seem like he's playing games.

Hey he was 2 months out of a relationship, maybe he needed that time to heal? Go for it

I would. We've all behaved in a way that, looking back, we wish we hadn't surely. He may regret his earlier treatment of you. We change and evolve as we go along don't we. I say go ahead with your spidey sense set to full on and see.

Go for it. But I would let him do all the running and nip it
in the bud again at the first sign of game playing.

Ok sold. I'll text back. Light & breezy, he can chase, spidey senses on, check. :)

Good luck!

I wouldn't bother. Why do you still like him if you didn't really hit it off with him? I'd reply and then try and forget about him

I think you mainly like the idea of him, and possibly lust for him.
But it doesn't sound like he's relationship material.
I'd only reply if you're after a bit of fun, but be careful.

Good luck!

I'm totally listening to the reality check advice too. Not going to make it easy for him but yea I fancy him, he's hot!

"Shy and stilted" doesn't sound like much fun to me.

I'd probably quit while I was ahead.

there would have to be a bit more than 'hi', for me to bother replying.

a sentence would be nice.

ignore it.

Things change over time- his situation is a little different now, maybe so who knows. I'd give it a whirl and keep an open mind. You sound pretty sorted and not prone to losing your head!

Yea I know about no contact in some situations (especially abusive ones) but I think in some cases it can make you look bitter? Surely better to be bright, breezy & check me out I'm not that bothered about what happened?

See how he is with you, if he seems a game player still then thanks and goodbye. At least you won't wonder about what might have been.

You could always try something like..
'god you really pissed me around last time... is it going to be different this time??' Should at least deal with the elephant in the room.