Just over a week ago my wife of 7 years told me she doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore, and it's time to call it a day. It has tore me up as we also have 3 kids (5,7,12). She said I am welcome to stay until I find a new place. Over the last week I have been on an emotional roller coaster, from feeling lost to frustrated.
I respect her feelings and she stated she has felt like this for a while and been unhappy. I think to myself if only she had said earlier, but I have told her I am not angry or upset with her but think she is very brave for confronting this. At first when she told me I told her it can be better and things will change but she told me she doesn't think she will get them back and it's pointless me fighting for her. That killed.me but after a couple of day I tried to be positive about it. I wrote her a letter, then sat down and spoke about it.
I faced up to the fact that I took her for granted, didn't romance her enough, moaned about mundane things that shouldn't have really mattered. I faced the fact I was too nice at times and should man up more when she and the kids are involved. She told me about how I was funny and carefree when we first met, to which I have thanked her for reminding me of that person who has been lost.
over a week has passed and I am trying to show her I can be that guy again, it been hard being close to her but keeping my distance. We have hd fun and spoke a lot, but I just want to tell her how amazing she is and how much I love her but don't want to drive her away. She got a new dress yesterday and shouted me in to see how it looked on her, I felt like a teenager again, I thought she looked gorgeous, told her she looked great, but inside I just wanted to grab her and give her the biggest kiss and cuddle.
What should I do? Leave? Fight? Tell her how she makes me feel or is time the only answer?
Ps sorry for any spelling I typed this on my phone.