Basically when my DH gets tired or has had a long day at work he literally turns into Kevin the Teenager from the Harry Enfield show! Lots of huffing, puffing, smart arse comments and often quite nasty cutting remarks and comments directed at me when I've done nothing wrong.
He doesn't normally work long hours but today did have an early start as he had to travel a 2 hour train journey and back. He got in at 5.30ish and of course I had a meal ready for him, but I could tell the second he walked through the door that he was in a bad mood. He was very ungrateful for the meal and just moaned about it when he was eating it, and then for a while every time I said anything to him he kept saying "Shuuuuuuuut up" in a really mocking teenagery voice.
He left his plate on the table; when he's in these moods he won't do anything to help in the house at all. But I didn't say anything and just cleaned and tidied the kitchen.
He then decided to take our youngest, who is 5, to the park for a walk. He said bye to me and I said "See ya" in a normal, pleasant voice, and he then mocked me in a horrible voice and said "See ya". I said "There is no need to mock me", and he said "I wasn't mocking you, I was saying bye". I said "you just repeated what I said in a mocking voice" and he said he hadn't repeated anything at all and that I'd imagined it and then he said really mockingly "Stop making things up!".
He got back from the park and was just basically a smart arse all evening, moaning about being tired, and if I said anything just coming out with random rude comments or put downs. So in the end I ignored him. He must have twigged I was ignoring him as he kept looking at me and saying "Charming!".
I feel really pissed off with him. I am getting to the stage where I'm starting to be less attracted to him because of his behaviour and moods, and feel like I deserve better.
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DH gets in weird moods when tired
BrazilNil · 09/07/2014 22:12
I have a teenager behaviour like this happens but is unacceptable, an adult should have learnt to control it. I'm similar I get scratchy if tired/ill/hungry but you just CANT treat people that way.
If my H is in a shitty mood id say "you are being an arsehole, I'm going to bed" I have occasionally pointed out too that if he were a boyfriend (rather than my husband who I love) that it is "dumpable" behaviour and he'd be my EX 
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