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Original poster

small gifts early on when dating... yay or nay?

35 replies

needsmorecake · 02/07/2014 17:17

We are talking very early on. 3rd date early.

We have had the exclusive talk and are both feeling excited about getting to know each other.

Hes just started a new job and i kind of wanted to be nice and take him a small gift to say ' well done on your first week there' type thing.

I was just going to make a few cakes ( he likes cake)

Few girls at work said it was cute, one girl said it was lame and the boys ( they are maybe 20 years younger than my date) laughed.

so, lame? or nice gesture?

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 02/07/2014 17:21

Rather than cake how about a bottle of bubbly that you can both share? You're not his mother...

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 02/07/2014 17:24

Yeah take a nice bottle to share, not cake.

ShatnersBassoon · 02/07/2014 17:25

Cakes is a bit, err, homemakery. Go for something a bit more exciting.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 02/07/2014 17:25

Aw, I like cake.

Original poster
needsmorecake · 02/07/2014 17:25

ooohhhh, i hadnt thought of that.

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mammadiggingdeep · 02/07/2014 17:25

Bottle of bubbly is perfect.

ShatnersBassoon · 02/07/2014 17:28

I like cake too, but I would think it a strange thing to be presented with on a date. It's a bit like a jar of homemade jam; nice, but is in no way romantic. Basically, if they sell it at a WI coffee morning, don't give it to a man on a date.

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needsmorecake · 02/07/2014 17:32

bubbly it is.
:)

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elastamum · 02/07/2014 17:32

My now DP arrived to a date with a bunch of tulips as it was my birthday (2nd date). It was lovely, not too much but just a nice thought. Cake is fine and fun, shows you have put some thought in. Cake and sparkly wine, even better

gigglygirlygirl · 02/07/2014 17:38

I baked my BF cookies and took them to the 3rd or 4th date ........

teaandthorazine · 02/07/2014 17:47

Dp and I had our third date just before my birthday - he bought me a necklace and a card which was v sweet but actually it was a tiny bit awkward at the time as we barely knew each other...

I would go for the bottle of champagne tbh - it shows thought but it's not too much, iykwim.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 02/07/2014 17:54

Champagne? I was thinking a decent Cava... :) To be drunk, as my uncle once said to me with a Wink, 'between the sheets'... Cake between the sheets is just nasty.

teaandthorazine · 02/07/2014 17:58

Actually I'd go for Aldi prosecco - bloody delicious it is!

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needsmorecake · 02/07/2014 18:13

I have a bottle on the side in the kitchen, thats how little effort it will be, i dont even have to go to an actual shop

:)

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 02/07/2014 19:35

Champagne just sitting around waiting? Wow. You're a regular Red Hot Momma.... :) Far better than presenting yourself as crusty old Mary Berry. Confused

PlantsAndFlowers · 02/07/2014 20:38

Mary Berry is not crusty! Shock

PlantsAndFlowers · 02/07/2014 20:39

But yay to champagne! Makes you look glam and not too personal for a third date.

Fairy13 · 02/07/2014 20:45

I took the man I'm dating a cupcake on our first date - I was attempting to bake them for my sons birthday and we'd been texting about how awful I was at baking all day so I took it as 'proof'...

I don't think it's lame but maybe rather than a batch of cakes just one?

but bubbly is a great idea - I'm always down with any mention of alcohol!

FlippyBard · 02/07/2014 21:25

I think baking a cake for someone can be sexy! chocolate in particular. I wouldn't say, for example that a victoria sponge would stir the senses in a suggestive way but chocolate cake with cream, lovely toppings etc feels to me like a baking equivalent of saucyness... I think it would have to be a fail safe well practised recipe... Don't burn it. that may have the opposite effect Grin

PlantsAndFlowers · 02/07/2014 21:42

I bet you're tempted to take champagne and chocolate cake now aren't you? Smile

Think that would be acceptable around the tenth date.

Simplesusan · 02/07/2014 21:43

I think baking a cake is great idea. My dp baked me one very early on in our relationship and I loved it.

I've also given him gifts and he appreciated those.

tallwivglasses · 02/07/2014 21:46

Both. Definitely. Have funWink

PlantsAndFlowers · 03/07/2014 01:04

Seriously, I would feel a bit overwhelmed by both.

FolkGirl · 03/07/2014 06:26

I took my boyfriend a cake on about the 4th date.

It's one of the things that sealed the deal for him...

And I want the sort of man who appreciates my cakes.

Xcountry · 03/07/2014 06:34

Yes, I kept all the little gifts and cards and letters from DH in the early days and DD1 loves looking at them and having me read them to her (minus the explicit parts though). She asked me if she can keep them when I die? charming.