Your experience of POF (aaarrrrgggghhhh)

[ginahhh]

I have been trying online dating and would like to know if POF is as bad for you as it is for me.
Constant rude messages and endless idiots, weirdos and worse.
For any men on here, a sexually graphic description of what you'd do to me is not flattering or appreciated! And stop with the shirtless undies photos.
Any funny suggestions for what POF should stand for will be appreciated :)

Plethora of freaks.

hated the place!

Hundreds of weirdos who can hardly string a sentence together.

But one shining star who sent me a normal chatty message about a film..8 months later I love him lots

I liked POF! Was only on there a week though. Loads of messages and a few were filth and some were crazy and some were just a couple of words but the majority were good. Did figure out that I am not attractive to people around my own age!

Er. I met my husband on there been married nearly 6 years.

Hmm. I've found it not as bad as people suggest, but the people I'm talking to are 55 and upwards.

Ginahhh it might help you to know that I am a man and I found POF to be a total nightmare. We get unpleasant messages and shit from women on there as well, although I have no doubt there are more arsehole men than weirdo women.

OD is always a numbers game and POF provides the numbers. You just need to sort the wheat from the chaf

My best friend met her boyfriend on there.. I think it's like anything, you just have to sift through the weirdos.

and have quite a lot of luck.

Sifting through weirdos doesnt necessarily mean you are going to meet someone you click with, who also wants a relationship, and is ready to have one.

Lots of people use online dating for different reasons, boredom, ego boost, cheating, bit of fantasy... and its not always easy to tell who is lying.

I met my dh on there :)

You just have to remember there's tons more people on there because it's free so don't be afraid to be ruthless and use the block button. And don't give out your mobile number until you're sure they're not crazy or cock photo senders.

Dh and I also just met for a coffee first. Easier to get away if it's just a daytime quick drink... We ended up chatting for 5 hours. :)

Met a great guy.....until he told me he enjoyed cross dressing (not an attractive woman, think hyacinth bouquet crossed with a 6'5 rugby prop) and thought we could share clothes and bras . When I said no to clothes sharing he called me a selfish c**t.

Must be me then. I get "would like to meet" emails from people the opposite side of the country. I have tried to restrict to within 30 miles but clearly the filter isn't working. I am in my late 40's and only hear from guys 55+ who are wanting to go traveling and the like. Not possible with a primary school age child. I don't think it si the right site for me,

I will never frequent pof again. You may find a golden nugget in amongst the crap, but they are hard to find. I've been on 5 dates from there, one I'm still seeing, but contemplating getting rid.
Full of guys chancing their luck. Much better to go on a paid site then more likely to find someone who is actually looking for a relationship not just an F buddy!

Try ' Girls go free', a single friend showed me it and I thought it was good. You can see quite a lot about the chap before you meet him and Skype to speak to him before you meet and it is free for women. The men have to pay, which might get rid of a few sleeze balls.

It seemed to be just putting yourself out as a target for online sexual abuse. I've never been subjected to so much vile sexual (and when challenged) abusive comments, and I only put up with it for 3 weeks. Loads of penis photos, invitations for sex or descriptions of sexual activities. A lot of very abusive, controlling men with deep behavioural issues. Undoubtedly the few seemingly nice ones were married or in ltrs. Then there were the sad - very physically unattractive men or just plain thick, unable to write and spell very well or even express themselves in a way that you could feel a connection with, through a basic modicum of social skills.

Lots of them expressed great surprise that my profile stated I had a career. As if they had never encountered a woman with such a thing before.

I honestly cannot think what I got out of putting myself up there. Its so unclassy. I actually think its used by local prostitutes in my area, to attract more business. It might be dependent on area - there are no other dating sites much used other than POF where I am - in the words of one man "every single man is on POF". I think its so much better to meet men through friends or activities.

My first date from there happened three days after a nice guy sent me a messages about the heavy snow we were having. 2.5 years on and we own a house together and have an 11week old daughter.

Interestingly, I know women who have used POF for several months and never received one unpleasant message or cock shot or encountered any weirdos.

I know people who use POF and really like it. However, different websites have different demographics, and it varies from area to area. Everyone who I know uses OKCupid, another free site, and I know several people who met their spouses there, and many more who met their long-term partners. I am told that OKC is only good in big cities, though.

I have quite a few friends on there (female). One gets nothing but cock pictures and rude suggestions, the other one has had a few nice dates from it and not one penis pic. Really bizarre...

I met my significant ex and my lovely DP on there so I would say it is great

I hardly got any weirdos either. It must be down to the photos and profile.

I would assume that if your photos are at all 'racey' (god I sound like my grandmother!!!!) and if your profile makes you sound like a 'fun girl' you may get a lot of saddos hoping to get laid. I on the other hand had crap blurry photos and a dry, witty kind of a profile and didn't attract that many young lads. Maybe the odd MILF comment which just posses me off as it reminded me I was old (and childless at the time lol).

Bloody hell Zilver I can only assume the site has gone really down hi in the last few years, I didn't experience that at all!