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you know that feeling when you meet someone and your stomach does somersaults every time you think of them?

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SpaceCadet · 08/09/2006 14:19

well i have it bad
i dont want to feel like this but i do, im not going to go into full detail in case someone in rl reads this, but h is always round, pestering me to get back with him, but, i just dont feel that way about him, i still care, but after the pnuemonia thing etc, i think it killed the love i had for him and i certainly dont feel any passion.
however, family and a couple of people i know, say i should try and give it another go, not to thriow my marriage away...now ive started to have strong feelings for someone who lives near me.
im friendly with his parents, and hes moved back home after splitting with his last girlfriend, hes just started seeing someone new, so i know theres never a chance in a million years, but we get on soo well, we have everything in common, hes lent me some books that i was interested in and i find conversation so easy with him.
yesterday i was chatting to him and his mum came out and said"stop chatting my son up!!" tongue in cheek, but i went bright red..it must be so obvious..i feel like a daft school girl..but its kind of made me realise that i cant ever make a go of it with dh....and i wish i could stop thinking about this bloke....thanks for letting me ramble.

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nutcracker · 09/09/2006 18:49

He has said he does yeah but isn't sure about me having kids, mainly because he has only ever had himself to see to. He is worried that if we got together and it didn't work that the kids would get hurt too.

I can't see him until Nov so we have decided to just be friends for now and then see what happens when we meet.

He definatly makes my stomach do somersaults though it's so weird, have never felt like that about anyone.

Blondilocks · 09/09/2006 18:51

Sometimes it's a good thing that they show an interest in your children. I mean it shows that they accept them, but then I guess that could just being friendly. I know several people who were good friends but since getting girlfriends they are really warey of talking to me in case it upsets their ladies (silly in my opinion).

Idle chitchat is often a good start. He probably isn't aware of any feelings you have towards him so being friendly is a good start as he has a girlfriend. It might not last with her anyway.

I love the feeling, still get it for OH. I get so excited every time he phones or texts & am like a kid waiting for Christmas everytime he comes back from time away!

Also if you are feeling like this about another man follow your instincts and maybe not go back to your husband (or is it dp?) even if others say you should. It's your decision & only you can decide if it's the right thing to do.

nutcracker · 09/09/2006 18:53

Thats lovely that you still get that feeling for your OH Blondilocks

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 21:18

blondilocks-i think he just likes kids..im not very attractive and am overweight, and after him telling me who his ideal women is, i know damn well ive got no hope.
was round there this evening and he was friendlier to my ds..then he just walked out of the room and went upstairs, didnt even say goodbye, i recognise the brush off when i see it

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nutcracker · 09/09/2006 21:28

Awwww SC

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 21:30

his ideal women is a pop star i might add..saddo

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 21:31

nutcracker-you could always tread carefully at first, see each other without the kids in tow..i can see where he is coming from but if you thought like that you would never have a relationship again

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nutcracker · 09/09/2006 21:40

Yeah that is what I would like to happen, but as P is still here and shows no signs of ever leaving, i'm not sure it can work.

P isn't stupid, he knows I like someone else, he even suggested an open relationship fgs.

nutcracker · 09/09/2006 21:41

To be fair to P, he is still here cos I told him I needed him to have the kids so I can go to college. Mind you even if I hadn't, he wouldn't have left.

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 21:44

bloody awkward situation isnt it..especially if you feel like this about someone else.

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nutcracker · 09/09/2006 21:47

Yep, feel like I am in an episode of Eastenders sometimes.

I have to go to college, I have waited a long time to do ths and feel like I will go mad if i don't do it. Plus P is at home all day and follows me round and round so I have to have some space. Cos of college I need him here to have the kids.

Roll on November is all I can say, it's the only thing keeping me sane.

mistressmiggins · 09/09/2006 21:59

ideal woman v you - means nothing

after all - how near is he to your ideal man?

especially as men tend to have famous ideal woman like "Kylie" etc

means nothing

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 22:05

its not long till november

MM, hes abouit as far removed from my ideal man as he could be!
pmsl..his ideal woman is amy lee from evanescence

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nutcracker · 09/09/2006 22:06

God, don't men ahve strange ideal women ?? I am guessing he wouldn't stand a chance with her either ??

nutcracker · 09/09/2006 22:06

have, bloody wine

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 22:08

rofl..not a chance as shes a famous rock star!
but he said, ooh if i met a woman like her, id be soo happy.

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nutcracker · 09/09/2006 22:12

Idiot...him not you

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 22:14

i know..he basically wants a goth girl..but a really pretty one, whose not too gothy iyswim..

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nutcracker · 09/09/2006 22:17

LOL, he doesn't want much then.

How about you, what do you want ??

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 22:18

him!

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 22:20

ive just heard him leave to go to his g/f's

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nutcracker · 09/09/2006 22:20

Awww , it's hard isn't it, hopefully he will come to his senses soon.

nutcracker · 09/09/2006 22:21

Oh no

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SpaceCadet · 09/09/2006 22:22

well hes just started spending the night at hers so it looks like its getting serious

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nutcracker · 09/09/2006 22:24

Oh bugger, god i'd be gutted. Sorry that's not very helpful is it.

Mind you i get gutted easily, am gutted that M wasn't on msn to speak to me tonight as he was out getting peed LOL.