What do you make of these birthday gifts?

[Wowbirthdaygirl]

I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months. It is my birthday today but I saw him last night. We had a lovely evening etc etc.

My bday presents are: an aromatherapy associates candle and bath oils gift set, a rampant rabbit, crotchless knickers and a "Booty Bundle

I think he is slightly offended by the fact that I laughed so much I cried.

I do feel a bit meh he forgot a card.

Really what are your thoughts on these gifts?

Think I need to talk to him. Will try to put it off for today, can't quite face a potential dumping convo on my bday!

They aren't suitable for birthday gifts, more of the sort if thing you buy periodically to spice up your sex lives. Strikes me he's thinking about himself rather than you and the fact that you are so early on in your relationship has me looking like this

I wouldn't have laughed

It would put me off him tbh, even if he apologised for his mistake and all else was well within the relationship; I'd forever consider him an immature idiot at best.

Um. If he hadn't put much thought into the gift (eg aromatherapy gift set) that's one thing.

But to buy himself some presents that simultaneously say "I see you, my gf, as a sex object who isn't performing quite up to expectations yet" and "I put all the present buying thought into myself not you"... Hmm. Inconsiderate and self-centred spring to mind as descriptors.

It would be different if you'd mentioned wanting to spice things up, or that you loved anal, or similar. But you haven't.

I just clicked on the booty bundle link in the OP (am a curious sort) & noticed it redirected me to the Ann Summers site via a webtracker site. I don't think the poster is genuine & I am going to report my post to MN HQ.

That should have said ad tracker website - says it all really!

Please Miss, what's an ad tracker website? Do I now need to clear cookies from my phone or something?

I'm going to overlook the snide tone of the previous post & reply in earnest. It allows companies to measure the effectiveness of their marketing activity by tracking how many site visits a particular link generates.

Evening all. Just popping on to say that the OP is a long time MNer, and not - to our knowledge - working on commission .

And can we just say and , and happy birthday to you OP!

2 months in can be a real grey area, but if a guy really liked you and wanted a proper relationship that might go somewhere then he'd either take you out, or play it safe with flowers or something at that stage of a relationship. Not buy you a butt-plug.

If the OP is working on butt plug commission, I don't think it's going too well tonight.

Oh me, I never thought I would be a clutches pearls sort of person but you've already done anal with him after only a couple of months yet you're wondering what these type of presents imply......

My new man bought me a box of lovely cereal for one of my birthday gifts when we had been together only a month. I was a bit miffed but now I am very grateful it wasn't any of the above mentioned presents!

If you are not happy doing something sexual you should not be doing it.

Oh, and I married him . 15 years ago next month.

Depends whether you really like a lot of sex I suppose. Perhaps he genuinely thought you'd be up for it?

I have to say though that when you said he was a bit offended at you laughing till you cried, I nearly pissed myself laughing too. And then I explained it to dh and he laughed as well. Sorry.

dog, sorry to be dense, but what does how much OP likes sex or not have to do with it?

I don't actually think it does depend on whether you like sex. Who doesn't love sex? (well ok a few people) it's still totally inappropriate.

oh just refreshed after 10 mins ^ well quite.

Yuck this would put me off big time. Does he think you are some cheap fling. After just a few months this is what he decides to give you

I don't think there's anything wrong with those gifts but it clearly doesn't sit right with you, maybe it was a stab in the dark on his behalf because he can't know you very well after such a short time!

Loving sex and loving crotchless panties are two veeeeeery different things.

I wouldn't be happy at all with these gifts unless they had been discussed with me previously. Very inappropriate given the circumstances you describe.

I have just been out for dinner with 3 very good girlfriends who were all a bit at the gifts.

Going to talk to him over the weekend; I think the two issues for me are firstly that I'm not as into anal as the gift would imply, either he gets that or it's Dumpsville, and secondly that I want a relationship not a fuckbuddy, again the road to Dumpsville may be laid here.

Have just realised that Dumpsville may not be the best turn of phrase in the circumstances!

Coming back belatedly to say, no snideness intended dustbunny - I genuinely didn't know whether an ad tracker somehow tracked my activity other than visiting that website (hence wondering if I needed to clear cookies). Thanks for explanation, and apologies for any offence caused - none intended.