What do you do when your partner is so angry he doesn't want to speak to you

[Elleann]

Do I just give him space :( I have apologised and gave him a hug but he absolutely hates me right now.
I was annoyed with him for leaving and going out and not giving me a time for coming back. I have been badly hurt before so I guess is my own insecurities.
He doesn't know what he wants but is still here literally sitting on his 'game' in the living room
Arrrrgghh I think I'm just a crap gf

So you're going to let him come back?

I don't think OP meant he was coming back. I hope not anyway.

No not letting him come back now. No way.

He cares about himself and that's it. I am gutted though as I honestly thought he was the guy. Sad I know

He is coming tomorrow morning but only be coz in need the car for ds dentist apt. He will probably leave after that

Arrerggh my son is upset he is gone. Big hugs for the lad who connected with him. It makes me angry all those false promises

What an utter wanker.

Seriously, you are bothered about this?

I thought you must have actually done something quite serious to get this sort of treatment from him.

I'd pack his bags and tell him to freeload somewhere else. He gets shit loads of space all day it seems whilst you are at work!

He has worked really had for you all???? Doing what exactly??

You need to realise he is a cock lodger who is playing I your insecurities.

You are allowed to text your partner and to ask where they are. It's not being mardy at all.

The thought of being needy is awful to me but he has made it as though I am the devil. I provide everything and put up with all his crap BUT the minute I have something negative to say spitting the dummy

I hope you are feeling strong and positive this morning Elleann

Did you pack his bags last night?
I have a horrible feeling you will take this cocklodger back.

Let us know how it's going.

No judging here. You do what YOU need to do.

He came back and has now left again to pick up a friend who gf chucked him out. So I imagine they will be bitching and deciding single life is great. He didn't say much. I'm just carrying on as normal as possible for my own sanity. I feel terrible and can't eat at the moment.
I think he just wants to be away from me. It feels like torture.

Have you actually ended things?
Thrown him out?
Does he know it's over?
Not really sure what the situation is here.
Are you waiting for him to come back and make things right?

I am struggling but would rather he spoke to me and either ended it and left. I think I'm kinda hoping it works out.

Why would you want it to work out?
No doubt you have your reasons but I just wondered.
What is so good about him?
He really does sound like a cocklodging, piss taking arsehole from where I'm sitting.

Could you take control to force his hand?
Tell him it's over and see how he reacts.
That will tell you all you need to know.
Then you can make the decision.

Right now he is in total control and he knows it and it isn't doing you any favours being on the back foot.
Take control. You are strong enough so do it!

I know what your saying is right. For the most part we got on and do well together but when we do fight it's major. I feel weak today and reckon he won't be back tonight. He is definitely got the power in his hands right now. I don't want to suffer forever until he figures out what he wants.

Take the power back. Pack up his stuff and leave it out for him. Don't let him be the one to call the shots.

Well don't let him have that power.
Take it back.
It's you and your life. Why have some knob dictate it for you?
That's just mad.
What do YOU want really? This poor excuse of a man?
Your life, you are in control. (easier said than done I know)
But all this for a pathetic man?
NO. Time for you to take action and take the control away from him.
You'll be glad you did!

I'm toying because I still love him. God even typing that was hard. I don't want to text him but would rather face to face. If he ever comes back and tries to speak to me that is. If not it's his loss and his stuff will be in the shed. Breaking away from my ex was really tough and I he is still a total looser. He is alone jobless and his dad kicked him out.it annoys me because I should have known better but I believed this guy when he said it was for keeps. The worst part is I have let him into my kids lives and they love him. I could just scream.

Try the next day. And if he needs to apologise, wait for him to apologise, and in the meanwhile ignore him. That's what I would do.

Buy WHY do you love him?
What is loveable about him?
What does he bring the table?
Does he support you in a loving way?
Does he take your insecurities into acount?
What does he contribute money-wise to the household?
Sorry but I just can't see why you LOVE him.

What happened to that strong woman from last night ?