What do you do when your partner is so angry he doesn't want to speak to you

[Elleann]

Do I just give him space :( I have apologised and gave him a hug but he absolutely hates me right now.
I was annoyed with him for leaving and going out and not giving me a time for coming back. I have been badly hurt before so I guess is my own insecurities.
He doesn't know what he wants but is still here literally sitting on his 'game' in the living room
Arrrrgghh I think I'm just a crap gf

Hmm I'm not sure. Maybe he wasn't at his dads. I never really thought about that. Not sure really I think he planned to stay away as he took his laptop with him. I told him this and got no reply. Maybe he was at a friends or with another girl !!!! I have no proof really. And his dad would tell me if he wasn't there. I have no idea what to think

So he gets free rent, food etc in exchange for picking up the kids? Surely an au pair could do that?

Send him back to mummy, he's a child. If you don't, your kids will be grown up and you will still be supporting him.

You clearly have a battered self esteem, asking for courtesy is not being a psycho!

Well after a whole day of silent treatment he has left to go to his brothers. I simply replied ok. I cried a little when he was leaving, grr I was trying to hold it in. He said he said why are you crying I'm only going to my brothers I need time and space. As far as I'm concerned he can have his time and space and il soldier in with my little crackers. My son who is 8 told me tonight that I need to be brave and we will be ok. He is 8 and amazing :)

And your so right my self esteem is zero. I know I'm not ugly or unkind but I have been keeping strong all my life. Doesn't stop the hurt though.

Your 8yo has more emotional maturity than this pathetic manchild

Come on, love. You can find a better male role model for your children than this

Did I read this right? He attacked your eldest DS? Wtf? If anyone attacked my child they'd be out of my life within seconds. I'm glad you got rid. Don't expose your children to people like that.

Bum, it was thr kids bio dad that attacked his son I think

No my ex attacked my son. Ass hole. He doesn't get near me or my boys. Maybe anyone seemed better than him

I was just going to say, OP, that your current may be slightly better than your ex but he is still way short of any cop at all

Yes I can find someone better but maybe being on my own is best. Man child is correct.

Good for you. Don't be one of those women for whom any man is better than no man.

Oh I'm sorry. He still sounds like a childish twat though. Be strong.

Listen folks I can't thank you enough x I am crying but will be ok. Life is tough and I honestly don't know what I would do if I wasn't a single mum. Thanks for being honest, it's what I needed

You will be ok. Hang on tight to your kids and remember that you are all they need just now x

Maybe don't date for a while and spend a bit of time recalibrating your twat radar ? Try the Freedom Programme Online

Haha yes my twat radar is on high alert. I am dreading him coming back tomorrow eek. My plan is to carry on as normal. And to try and not cry.

Congratulations :) you sound very sensible. You know you are better off without him.

You don't sound very bitchy nor very psychotic to me. This stupid arsewipe was always going to bring out the worst in anybody

He has called me a bitch but it really upset me. He then told me I was a great gf. That was last week. I have no one around here and family are miles away. I'm starting to make new friends and keep in touch with old ones too. I will rebuild my life but I am scared of what he will say tomorrow. I think he is punishing me. I think he feels in control. I am a single mum with kids and he can just leave when he likes.

I thought I was actually quite a good gf lol. Perhaps not in his eyes. I am a nice person and it backfires ALOT

Thing is I'm not a bitchy person but perhaps expect too much from the other gender. God knows

It doesn't matter what he thinks. It sounds like he will say anythign to keep you on the back foot and even believe it himself. He's not right in the head though, and you are.

Take my advice and do not have a big "conversation" when you see him

Tell him he made his choice and you think it is for the best for you to split. The end. No more engaging...it will do you no good at all and simply add to the Head Fuck

Your right. Thank you and it's me n kids now. I have no intention of a l

Long conversation. Everyone makes mistakes get angry and feels insecure at times. I am who I am and try to do good. End of xxx