Can't deal with h any longer

[Longdistance]

I'm so angry right now, I could murder him.

We're on holiday, and because it's all inclusive, he's been drinking loads. Tonight, after dd2 went to bed, he went off to the bar to have more drinks. This has resulted in him waking up sick tonight, and he fell like a tonne of bricks onto the tiled floor. I still don't know if he has broken anything, as he has crawled to the bathroom unsuccessfully, and is half in the family room, half in the bathroom covered in shit.

I've got dd's asleep here, we're in a family room, and I need to protect dd's from seeing this worthless bastard on the floor.

It's dd2's 3rd birthday today too :(

[Longdistance]

It's gonna be a nightmare chucking him out. All his family are coming over from Oz to stay with his dad, which is the only place I can possibly throw him out to. His df is a decent man, very gentle, calm, generous, respectful. Just a lovely man. How the hell did he end up with a son like him?

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

You have written about him at some considerable length previously and nothing has really changed. I remember him financially abusing you previously and that has not altered one bit either; he's still doing that as well.

Seek the advice too of more than one Solicitor; friends can be over invested.

All you can do going forward is leave this man. This is no life for either you or your children to be witnessing. They've already heard and see far more than you perhaps even care to realise.

[Longdistance]

My friend is a criminal lawyer. She will have friends in the industry iygwim, so will ask her advice on who to use as we've both used some major solicitors in our town due to house sales, legals etc. don't want a conflict of interest going on.

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

No man is above the law, never forget that.

[Lweji]

You have probably got this advice previously, but gather help from as many people as possible, including WA. Make a plan and leave.
The danger here is that you'll start minimising it as you return home and start thinking it's not so bad and keep staying.

[VitoCorleone]

God OP that's awful at any time, but on holiday the night before your daughters birthday? Appalling.

You will be well shot of him

[Longdistance]

I've made him clean it up, saying it's not fair on the room service lady to deal with. He's in the room hiding, and I've been for a splash around with the girls, who are now in kids club.

His first words to me were ' Algeria and Russia are playing later' I hate football, as if I'm interested in anything he's got to say.

I could have been knocked down with a feather, he gave me his cash card to get money out. I've got a cold and a chest infection. I'm asthmatic, so needed some antibiotics. All I wanted was a good nights sleep as I feel unwell, and I've been up since 3 am listening to arsehole bang around in the bathroom cleaning, and I've been keeping an eye on dd's, so they don't wake from the commotion, and need the toilet, as it was disgusting beyond belief.

I really hate that man right now. He's destroying everything. He's so fucking selfish. I just need to get through til Sunday when we travel home, and I want him out of the house to give me space. Like lots of it. He's supposed to be in Manchester on Monday for work, and will be staying up there the night. I need him to stay away a lot longer.

[LumpySpacedPrincess]

You poor thing, sounds dreadful.

[sugar21]

Op my EXH was and as far as I know is a raving alcoholic. I know what it's like to live with one, and the puke and poo etc etc. My advice to you would be as soon as you get back home try to leave. WA are very good if you need them. I'm worried that your DH will become violent as drunks so often do. If that's what you think pacify him for now. I stayed with mine until I finished up in A&E when he attacked me. Dunno really what else to say except get your DD's to the beach