Spicing up sex life

[Mimitralala]

Hope this is ok in this thread. Dh and I have been trying to spice things up a bit. With the hot weather he keeps suggesting using ice lollies. Basically he wants to stick it in which I'm not happy with. Now he says how about ice cubes. Am worried about infections. He says it's only water. I was the one who suggested the whole let's spice things up so now he is accusing me of backing off... Am I being stupid to say no to that? Now he has suggested anal instead which I am not sure about either. I was thinking more along the lots of foreplay but he says we already do lots of that, more like 5 mins imo ... Any ideas? When I tried to discuss at the weekend he refused to talk and said he didn't think I meant the spicing up thing ....

Yeah.....ok

Oh dear. How's your communication generally? How do you handle disagreements? How are conflicts resolved? Do you feel listened to? Is your opinion valued? Do your feelings matter to DH?

What a waste of an ice lolly.

I don't understand. Why aren't you willing to stick ice lollies up his arse, exactly? That's all he's asking for...

Maybe make it a Magnum, one with the nuts stuck on for extra bobbliness

Its about what both of you feel comfortable with though sometimes I think you have to do things that you don't necessarily like doing because the other one does but nothing you are uncomfortable with. I cant really be arsed with anal (no pun intended) but I will do it on occasion to please him because I don't really really enjoy it but its OK and he loves it.

What about little things like dressing up? doing it somewhere different? exciting? outdoors? in the car? swap the lollies for chocolate or something?

School holidays already?

It's difficult, isn't it? I guess the vast majority of men really fancy sticking objects up their partners fanjo ;) And a lot of women just want lots of foreplay.

Personally I don't fancy something cold up my fanjo. I don't think you need to worry about infections, but perhaps you could think of something else, seeing that it seems that he likes the idea of an object.

Maybe you should research a bit, get inspired, so that you can tell him exactly what YOU want (men often need very detailed instruction on EVERYTHING).

So are we talking a mini milk or a magnum?

Interesting magnum trivia - the nutty ones aren't actually nuts, they are cocoa nibs. It's like raw cocoa.

I never knew that. Presumably you don't want to get a cocoa nib embedded in your prostate though.

@LordEmsworth my DS has just raced in thinking I was having a seizure.... ROFL

Depends if it was a Frigo Finger or Foot?

Weird op, OP.

If this is serious OP I think your DH has been indulging in a little too much porn or has possibly been reading Fifty Shades of Grey type literature to get that kind of inspiration. No wonder he's crap at sex... which is the subtext here really, isn't it?

Are you unhappy with your sex life?
If so, what do you want to do/try?

Speaking as a sexual health specialist (really, that is my job).

Do NOT put anything sugary up your danni. That is a fast ticket to infection :-). Ice cubes are okay. They actually do glass dildos you can freeze which are meant to be nice. Or compromise and he can alternate rubbing ice cubes all over you and nibbling after the trail? Feels really good for you and is maybe a bit cool for him? My hubby liked it when I gave him alternating blow job and ice attention...

Re: anal, if you do want to try it, use a LOTS of lube to keep you safe. Also make sure to remove condom / wash penis after if that isn't the end point- don't transfer from arse to fanjo directly.

Dressing up and role playing is often a good happy medium?

What are your fantasies? Does he know them? Xxx

Ps- why I used the term hubby, I don't know. Apologies. I hate that word.

Also- danni = fanny. Autocorrect.

I thought 'danni' was an odd word for a sexual health specialist to be using grumps

Shove the ice tray up his back danni and see how he like them apples.

I was the one who suggested the whole let's spice things up

I was thinking more along the lots of foreplay but he says we already do lots of that, more like 5 mins imo

I think it sounds as if what you want is just more foreplay. To me that's not the same as 'spicing up'. Maybe you and he have your wires crossed.

I think you should just talk to him honestly and tell him you don't feel you get enough foreplay. Do you find it hard to talk to him openly about sex?

Can't say that sounds pleasurable. Ice lolly up fantoosh

I thought danni was rhyming slang Jack and Danny is slang for fanny.

From now on 'Danni' is my favourite slang word for fanjo.

I am almost peeing myself at 'danni'.

Personally, I find the new marc de champagne magnums taste like they have already been shoved up someones danni (I guess, can't say for sure). They are yuk.