It's no secret we don't get along, for a few years now he will always take the opposite opinion from me and create arguments. He is always making snide comments and then saying he didn't mean it. When this has been brought up in the past he says he is sorry but I said x,y, and z which is why he behaves this way. It became a common thing for my friend to have to step in and say "now, now you two". I hate it, being treated like a child because he gets upset when I stand up and reinforce my arguments. He often says things to other people as well, he says he is being funny but it is just rude.
Recently I have been going through a lot personally and I emailed my friend after another episode of particular rudeness, to say I was upset with him and I wanted to stay away from him for awhile. I was going to end up saying something to him in anger which would ruin our friendship. They are both now having a go at me saying I have brought it up so we have to sit down together and have it out. I do not want to do this because me and him are never going to get on, I just don't like him. So why can't we just agree to be civil in public? She says that unless I sort this out with him I wont be invited to any social event that he is at. I.e. he wont be in the same room as me until I have this sit down with him.
They say I am being childish because I don't want to do this. I think acknowledging that two people just don't get on and being civil when things force you together are enough.
Can people tell me what they think? If I don't patch this up with him I will be socially exiled, she said he has already done this to friends so I have to do it. I think he is a controlling ass but she got very angry when I said he was trying to isolate her, saying she was no one lap dog! I didn't say she was I just think her husband wont allow he out to see her friends very much so everyone has to go to them and he wont allow people in who he can't control.
Am I over reacting?