He is a drifter, works as little as possible and is threatening the financial security of our family with his "I don't have to have a proper job" attitude.
He has an alcohol problem which he is currently apparently in good control of but he hasn't actually stopped drinking and has no intentions of stopping or seeking help to stop. He says he has stopped drinkin at home, but I have caught him secretly drinking twice. He calls these "little blips" and doesn't understand why I don't trust him not to be secretly drinking.
He has been verbally abusive to me whilst drunk, several times. This is rare but has happened as recently as a few months ago.
He has been physically aggressive with our DC (not to hurt but to demonstrate his displeasure). Last time this happened I chucked him out but he made huge promises to change and I believed him. He has made more of an effort and been a better father since then.
On the other hand he is kind and loving to me, can be fun to be with, and the love is still there between us.
If you recognise my situation (I've posted about him quite a lot under different user names) please don't shout at me for still dithering. I've almost made my mind up to go - I've seen a solicitor and viewed houses. But he is being particularly supportive and lovely at the moment and I'm finding it very tough to make that final push.