How long after a date with not texting before moving on?

[superstarheartbreaker]

Had a great date last night. No sex but snogging and fumbling etc. I'm not going to text him first. How long is it reasonable to wait before loosing patience and moving on? Three days?

Why are you not going to text him first? Maybe he is at home, thinking "'m not going to text her first!" If you liked him, text him! If he then ignores you, then it is time to move on.

I'd wait about 4 days but in the meantime I'd be getting on with my life.

A week?
What would the 'moving on' involve - if you want to see other people you're free to do so. Just get on with your life and don't worry about it, you only saw him yesterday!!

But I think the PP is also right. Why not text him and say you enjoyed the date. Then don't text him again. You'll know from his response (or lack of )

Agree with flexi. Text once if he ignores. Move on

If you're OLD carry on as you were. After 2-3 days mentally draw a line under it. Do not chase!

Just bloody text him - you are over 18 I assume?

Early yet, perhaps he doesn't want to look too keen same as you?
Why wouldn't you text? At least you'd know where you'd stand if no reply. You could keep it light & fluffy and just send one text.
If you have made decision not to text 3 days sounds a good line to draw x

IME, when you meet a potential keeper, all thoughts of "the rules" and such guff go out the window. You text them because you want to talk to them or sort out another date. Or he texts you a couple of times and you don't think "hmm, he's a bit over keen..."
Appearing sad or desperate or whatever don't even enter the equation.

How did you leave things when you said goodnight? Could you not read whether he was keen to see you again?

We have actually arranged another date for next wk tbh but I was a bit tipsy and I'd like to think he meant it when he said all those lovely things to try and get a shag? I'm not going to text him because I find getting ignored really painful. Far better to phase it out if he hasn't texted by 4 days.

Oh he was lovely to me. Said some lovely things. We wanted to shag but didn't. He basically said that he really likes me and he's never had a date like it!
Unfortunately I am an old cynic and have subscribed to the mn od rule " it's all bollocks until it actually happens!"

Well why not just text in a couple of days, if you haven't heard anything by then, to say "Hi, hope you're okay. Are we still on for xyz?".

Then you'll know.

Are you sure you're cut out for this?

I give them 48 hours and then I delete them if they haven't texted by then. Sometimes they text later and I have to say "who is this please?" because I deleted them! - it keeps them on their toes

I don't really understand what you mean jeanseberg. What a stupid, condescending comment. It's just a bit of girl talk you know.

It's 2014...women can text men. If I'd had a great date like you I'd have said thanks I had a great time and that I was looking forward to seeing him again...

Yes text!

How did you meet him? Online or irl?

I would text once next day to say thanks for lovely evening, good to meet you and speak soon.

Personally I think if its important to you to communicate, and continue to develop your relationship by text / phone / email inbetween dates, then you should take the initiative and text, because otherwise you risk it becoming a FB type scenario (I assume from what you've said you don't want that?).

It's about you setting the expectation for what you want from a new relationship. Of course he may or may not want the same thing himself, but at least you find that out quickly rather than further down the line.

I had a date the other night too and he texted me the next morning! If he hadn't, I would've texted him def by the afternoon, but then that's just me. I can't bear waiting around!

Has he texted yet? He may well not want to come on too strong... you sound like you like him so text him! What is there to lose?

I say text him...I hate being ignored too (issues from ex) but he is a relative stranger ignoring you, so put it down to him being rude and move on. I'd prob not text straight seat though, maybe two days later?

I wouldn't text. Call me old fashioned but in my experience if a guy is into me, he takes the initiative. I'm just not comfortable making the first approach, not through a fear of rejection, altho of course no one likes being rejected, but more through a sense of I honestly blv most men prefer to be the 'chaser' not the chased. I know this view will not be received well by some but this is my experience and what men have told me.

I like that hesterton

I texted DP after our first date to say that I could smell his aftershave on my pillow. Apparently he liked it and it didn't put him off! I'd already said that I wasn't going to play games, that if I wanted to see someone I would let them know and it was up to them what they did about it.

He did most of the running after that but he still had a freak out when he thought it was getting a bit serious, he hadn't anticipated his dating adventures coming to a halt getting into a relationship quite so quickly and was a bit taken aback by his own feelings apparently.

Not doing the 'chasing' is no guarantee that they won't panic and do a runner anyway. Fortunately for me, mid-discussion about cooling things a bit, he realised that I was wonderful and had a change of heart and ended up falling in love with me instead

If he hadn't I would have thought him an idiot for rejecting someone he clearly liked and fancied on the basis that she liked and fancied him too.