How long after a date with not texting before moving on?

[superstarheartbreaker]

Had a great date last night. No sex but snogging and fumbling etc. I'm not going to text him first. How long is it reasonable to wait before loosing patience and moving on? Three days?

OP, did he text?

I don't text and delete after a couple of days too

OP let his actions follow his words then, if he thinks you're as fantastic as he said last night then surely he'd be bombarding you with texts.

Jeez what is this! If you want to see him again text him, if he doesn't reply move on.

This isn't the time where men have to or are supposed to make the first move, send the first text, buy the first few meals.

OP has he contacted you yet? I'm a believer in it being the man's job to contact. If he is into you he will be pursuing you. If he doesn't, you have your answer!

When I met the OH, after our first date I emailed him with 'so this is the awkward after date contact - how has your week been? And how was your date last weekend?' And he responded with something like 'date was great, thanks for taking the hit of the awkward after date contact - what are you doing next weekend?'

10 years together next month.

He may think that he was the one who took the next step with the next date you said you've arranged and that it is therefore your turn to confirm.

Beware if you're going to play the 'he has to text me first' game. He may be waiting for you to show you're keen after the next one so be prepared to drop this actually communicate your feelings.

Ok then, text him. He will either not reply (my guess) or say something feeble to let you down gently.

Up to you.

In my experience of dating (which has been long) a man will text you immediately after the date to say he had a great time and ask for a second one.

You don't sound like a cynic, OP. You sound like you're trying desperately (and understandably) not to get hurt. I didn't think JeanSeberg's comment was condescending at all. If you're like this after one day/one date then it's something to consider so that you gird your loins a bit. Dating is tough; be honest posting here about what it is you want and the responses will possibly be more attuned to you.

So did he text or not?

It sounds like you had a great time. Why on earth wouldn't you text? You're not declaring your love, just say hi.

I'm in a similar situation to you OP, though I suspect I'm older and perhaps more thick skinned a little wiser.

Had first date with a guy I met OLD. After loads and loads of crap dates, at last someone gorgeous, who I could laugh and converse with.

He seemed to feel the same and we agreed to meet again soon. He said he'd phone. That was 2 days ago and not heard from him.

I'm disappointed, but if he doesn't phone I'll have found out that he wasn't suitable after all. I wouldn't dream of phoning him. If he doesn't phone its because he's not interested.

I'm still chatting with other guys on the site - my life's not on hold.

Def worth a text even if u say u had a nice time and great to meet u type text. As others have said he might be feeling same as u.

Was this a first date OP or have you been out on a few with him? Maybe he thinks he doesn't need to text as you have already made arrangements to meet again?
Send him a text, if he doesn't respond then you'll know.

Why on earth wouldn't you text the next day just to say thanks for a great night? Sounds like game playing and over thinking.

I don't understand that either.. why can't you just say thanks for a good night?

I'm sure he's not sitting looking at his phone today. In fact why can't you ring him?

If I didn't get a text later that night or the next day I would assume he wasn't that keen.

These dating "rules" are crap aren't they? Everyone playing bluff and counter bluff. Trying to second guess what the other one is thinking. Not wanting to appear under keen, over keen.
If I like someone, I tell them. If that leaves me exposed and vulnerable, it's just tough.