I have posted a couple of times before about dp and how much of a cunt he is.
He is nasty, controlling, emotionally abusive, a bully and makes my life miserable. I get absolutely nothing out of this relationship, no affection, no nice conversations nothing. I have asked him so many times to leave but he refuses, laughs at me and blackmails me with something I've done. I have had enough tonight. He was so nice to us last night then this morning he phoned me at 6am screaming down the phone that I was a lazy Bitch and I should get out my bed, he was halfway to work and why should I be sleeping when he was up? I hung up on him and switched my phone off. I switched it on 3 hours later to find several abusive voicemails and texts telling me what a shit mum I was, I can't be arsed looking after my kids and that I am a waste of space because I don't have a job.
We don't share a bed, we haven't for months, I sleep on the sofa so I can hear dd2 better during the night, she is 1 and still wakes a couple of times but goes straight back to sleep again when I go through. I will admit that I am a very heavy sleeper and I don't always hear her before he does (he is a light sleeper) and this has caused endless arguments about my ability to parent. He wants to get social services involved and thinks they will section me (no idea why) because I don't hear my child easily at night 
He goes out to the pub 4/5 nights a week, he is hardly here but when he is he is vile. The way he speaks to me is disgusting, he laughs and sneers at anything I suggest and kicks off whenever I ask to go out somewhere without the kids.
He does absolutely nothing around the house. It's been 7 months since he last done a washing and the reason I know this is because it was the night I was in hospital and he didn't have a work uniform for the morning. I was recovering from surgery and he actually phoned me to shout at me for not washing his clothes before I went in 
I have a supportive family and my friends can't stand him but how do I get him to actually leave the house? I'm so scared of being on my own and I don't know why because anything is better than being with him. I've spent 4 years of my life with him and I suppose it's a big step to being alone.
I've been in touch with woman's aid for a while they are fantastic and helping me a lot.
I asked him to leave at 4pm when he got in from work. He said if he goes he is taking dd2 with him and I will never see her again. I'm worried about what he will do and I can't phone the police because I'll be arrested when he tells them what I done a few months ago (the blackmail he's been using)
I just can't see a way out 