Is this how it will stay?

[Ilovebakedbeans]

I've had a lovely relationship for 4 months with someone I met online. We get on very well, met eachothers families, spend quite a lot of time together. I'm feeling very down tonight and I'm not sure why. I keep thinking the relationship will not progress to anything more than it is now and to be honest my ideal would be to remarry one day.

I do realise it's far too soon to be thinking of marrying him but he seems so comfortable with his set up that I'm not sure he would want to change it. He is in his mid forties but lives with his parents due to circumstances when his previous relationship broke up. Unlike many people of this age who would probably be desparate to get out he's seems very settled there getting everything done for him. I keep thinking why on earth would he want to leave. It's too soon really for me to mention anything about it although I have asked if he can see himself staying there for good and he just said its convenient. Just having a down mood this evening and I keep thinking if he was really in live with me surely he would want to see me most nights not stay at his parents house?

bellyrub congratulations on your pregnancy :)

I must admit your reply has struck a chord because it's kind of how I feel things are going. That things will evolve naturally, just a gut feeling. I haven't felt right pushing it because it's early days, too soon and neither of us is ready. He doesn't leave stuff here yet unless it's some wash stuff because he's staying 2 nights in a row.

I don't like living with the parents but he's really nice and I'm so aware that's very very hard to find. Truthfully I would find it highly odd if he cleaned my bathroom even a little intrusive and pushy at this stage. On the other hand offering help, as he has done is nice. I don't know what gave me the wobbles the other day, I think it's because new relationship and all that.