May as well be single.

[TheMumsRush]

Just ranting. Sat on my own, DH in bedroom (as we've had another row). I'm on my own all week. I looks forward to dh's company but he says he needs time away from ds and I. I was on my own most of yesterday, we had an ok evening after I got ds to bed. And now I'm in my own all day today. Then it's Monday and all work again (obv) and then it's contact weekend. Fucked off is all.

what's your dh doing all day when you're on your own? do you get any 'time off'? how old is ds

He's at work. Ds is 1 and I've had many people tell me he's a handful

I get time off in the sense that DH is helping. I ding get time off like DH, he can jump in the car and go do things.

What was the row about?

My DH is really grumpy in the morning, I walk on egg shells. He woke in a bad mood. He's been gunning for me all day. The row was because I have up trying to stop it happening

What did he say to you?

He's just an arse. Can't even remember what it was all over it's so stupid . Told him not to call me a cunt anymore though

He called you a cunt? Oh dear, this isn't looking good. Does he ever look after DS on his own?

No, never

He did today though as I went out to calm down

He's called me that many times. I said today is the last time he called me that!

He's a bully, I can feel his irritation with me and I try not to irritate him and that only makes it worst. He picks and picks and picks and when I snap I'm an agrow cunt!! I feel like hurting myself out of frustration

have you thought about leaving him?

Owe both have come close. I feel like he's looking for a reason to leave me, hence me walking in eggshells

is there any way you can have a good chat about where your relationship is headed and what you both want- for instance relate?

Please don't hurt yourself, its not the answer.
Do you have parents/ friends who can help? Maybe have your boy for a few hours so you could both talk? I'm sorry you are going through this and he sounds like a right arrogant arse. If you don't want to talk, do you actually want to be with him? X

he called you a cunt and you walk on eggshells around him? yet you say you 'look forward to his company'

Don't hurt yourself. End the relationship. There is no loneliness like the loneliness of being in a bad relationship. I left a bully years ago and I've never felt anything close to that loneliness since. I've been on my own most of that time but it's been peaceful. The next time he picks a row tell him he's free to go.

how are you today OP?

What do you mean "it's contact weekend"?
Is DS your DH's son?

Feel a bit better today, he's being nice and made me a coffee this morn it's ups and downs.

That could be still an integral part of his nice/nasty cycle which is infact a continuous one.

My guess too is that over time you have tried to change your own behaviours in order to suit him.

What do you yourself get out of this relationship now?.

What do you want to teach your child about relationships here, surely not this awful role model of one. Would you want him to emulate the relationship that you currently have?.

Your h ruined your weekend, doesn't have your ds alone to give you some time alone and yet you're ok because he made you a coffee??

Do you think this weekend coming will be more of the same or totally different?

MumsRush yours sounds very much like my ex. I was terrified to leave him and become a single mum - but essentially I was one anyway. I eventually threw him out and my work and stress levels halved, not least because I didn't have to pick up after ex as well as my kid, and I wasn't walking on eggshells, and feeling lonely even with my then-DH still in the flat.

I'm not saying my experience will be yours, but my main regret is that I didn't leave him earlier.

My DP is a right arse some of the time. But he would never call me a cunt, never call me a name. That's despicable behaviour and he is not worthy to be a parent to your children.