I posted about SiL very recently - bullying behaviour when other people are around (although fine when we're alone), nasty comments towards myself and DS - including pointing out that DS isn't MiL's biological grandson in front of him (he knows but he's only 10, not sure he 'gets' it), breaking/chucking out our possessions, etc.
She visited last month. I'm still not over it.
After she left I was very shaken up. Have not long recovered from a NB (workplace bullying) which resulted in a year off sick and have only recently got back on my feet, started working again, going out, etc. A week with her and I was a suicidal wreck. I felt like I'd been under fire. Was exactly how I'd felt when I was being bullied at work.
I went back onto the anti-depressants that I'd carefully reduced over time and spent a week in bed feeling shit. Honestly I was right back to square one. I was late home from work one morning - there'd been an incident requiring an ambulance (nursing home) and I stayed behind to write up some paperwork and tie up lose ends. DP thought I'd killed myself because he knew how depressed I was. That's how bad she made me feel.
I decided after that thread that I was going to distance myself from her. I blocked her from seeing my recent FB posts (she always posted snippy replies to whatever I posted) and I've 'hidden' her so I don't need to see her posts. Haven't bothered texting or calling.
Last week I wondered if maybe I was over-reacting. So I called her just to say hi, see if I could smooth things over and hopefully emerge feeling better about it all. She was at a friend's house (so had an audience) and spoke to me like shit. This was last Wednesday.
I decided at that point to give up. DP is on my side. He saw what a gibbering wreck I'd been. He recently asked if we could meet up with his cousin one weekend and I told him I'd love to but not if SiL was there as I didn't like the way she spoke to me when others were around.
I explained that I tried to call and she spoke to me (again) like dirt. I told him I was giving up. He's fine with it. He's seen me try with her over the years with calls, cards, presents, visits, etc. It's not like I haven't made the effort.
So, I've given up, totally washed my hands of her. She lives miles and miles away so we rarely see her anyway.
Anyway, she's just text me:
I've just bought you a pressie.
Twice.
Why? Why has she bought me a pressie? I don't need a pressie, my birthday isn't until November. Why speak to someone like utter shit for a week, then again on the phone and then buy a pressie a week later?
WTF is going on?
How do I handle this? Ignore? Text something back? What?
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After reading the responses in Chat I'm going to ignore. There's nothing sensible I can say in response and I have no interest in talking to her.
However, I really want to know why she's doing this.
:(
In my last thread (which I had removed as I was terrified she'd read it and recognise herself from the first post) someone suggested that it was a sibling rivalry thing and DP was her target, not me.
I'm still both confused and upset by it all though.