Inlaws blamed me for dh walking out when i asked him his income. I'm a SAHM with no income. I don't want to see them anymore.

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DH returned after 4 days, of his own will.
Inlaws told me it was my fault he left!
No support from them, even though dd devastated.
I am ok with dc's seeing them, cos they are part of their family.
Have seen SIL, who wouldn't look me in the face.
WWYD?

OP, what you describe is financial abuse.

I know it's FAbuse, but I can't end my marriage without having financial safeguards in place for me and dc's, to stop him hiding money from the solicitors.

Meeting with s worker in 2 weeks.

OP, if someone (anyone) is horrible to you, you have every right not to see them. It doesn't matter who they are. If my in laws were nasty I would refuse to see them, and I would certainly never let them treat me badly in front of my DD, it doesn't set the kind of example I want her to learn about.

hmmnn can't say id be too optimistic about a social worker helping you sort out your emotions!

I was in contact with ILs during the process of separation and divorce until exMIL told me I was a bad person.
Couldn't be arsed after that.

You do what is right for you and keeps you sane.

Who has referred you to a social worker?

I've been referred by the family support worker of a local govt family charity.

Great. However, they are not going to be able to force your husband to,give you this information. They might help you work through your options. Good luck.

Yup, I want to learn what my options are and work through them

What can I tell dd (6 years old) when I don't attend his family get togethers?

Get your husband to take them. Be bust. Get a life of your own. Get a job!