If you needed to talk to someone now, do you have someone you could/would ring ?

[TheOriginalNutcracker]

Right now, at this hour, or infact any hour really.

I'm very fortunate to say yes I do.

Only in a dire emergency. That's why mn is brilliant.

Husband.

I can talk to him no matter what time of day.
I may not get a coherent response at say 3am but if I need to talk he will listen.

Failing him my mum is always there.

Failing that MN is here 24/7 always someone to help and support.

If everything was awful, I'd ask DP. If he was the issue, I'd call my brother or my best friend.
If they deserve the title, they deserve the trust.

That's good Dyzzidi , can I ask who ??

I wouldn't dream if phoning someone at this hour unless someone had died.

Hmmm

I don't think so. Well, there are a couple of people I could ring, but they're not geographically close enough to come over if there was something wrong, and I'd feel so massively guilty about interrupting their sleep, I doubt I'd do it. Might as well call police/ambulance if it was that urgent, and if it's not, then it can wait till morning.

Yes.

You lot in my computer.

See I know people that would call me at this hour cos they were upset, but if did the same they wouldn't answer.

Not all the people I know, but some.

Not sure I am making much sense.

I'm the glue apparently, that holds everyone together.

Oh, ring, not talk to......

No.Everyone would be asleep.

Yep I am v fortunate that I could ring a few people for help but it would obviously need to be desperate to ring at this time.

Honestly I was thinking about it and dh is working away so could ring him and I could ring my dsis or my mum and probably would be able to ring four friends with no hesitation.

I do realise that this makes me extremely lucky but I am also one of the people who people would ring at three in the morning.

Only if something veryserioushadhappened.

Those of you who have answered. Who would you ring first if you were upset about something ? At any time of day

Agree with plants.... And even then not sure. When my mm died I rang a friend about this time and she threw it back in my face about a year later.

I get ya OP.

Your the person they ring in a crisis but you could not rely on them in the same incident.

Majority of my 'friends' are like that hence why I said DH is the one I would talk to/ring.

Mum, not mm!!

cereal

Yep funnyfoot, thats it. I don't have a dh or dp, so can't ring them.

DH.

It's why I married him.
Sorry to sound soppy but he is my rock. As I am to him.

No, that is lovely FF

OP do you ever get the feeling you are the 'better' friend?

Hmm not sure i'd use that description, but I'm the 'always there friend', the 'yeh sure, i don't mind' friend.

Disagree with the premise here.

There are people I would phone at anti-social hours for them, in circumstances where there was a good reason for doing so [say, to pass on information that couldn't wait till a more awake hour of the day].

If I want support for me, I much prefer getting this in text based format online, from people who happen to be awake and with it at any given time of day.

If I want telephone based support for me, I'd much prefer pre-arranging that with the specific person I want support from at a time when we're both awake. Waking up sleeping people for my own benefit isn't OK and is detrimental anyway - I'd rather have a conversation with/support from someone well rested, than wake someone.

My other technique is to sit and write, often by hand, to order my thinking.

I don't ever 'need' to talk to someone by phone at anti-social hours for my own reasons, because there are other ways for me to find support for me that suits me better.