If you needed to talk to someone now, do you have someone you could/would ring ?

[TheOriginalNutcracker]

Right now, at this hour, or infact any hour really.

Good points there independentfriend. Not sure I had thought of it like that.

My head won't stop whizzing with stuff. But then yes you are right, no one wants to hear that at this time of night, andf I'd not dream of ringing them now anyway. Actually i wouldn't ring anyone at all.

If it was vital I'd wake DH. But not if it was just for a chat. If it was vital I'd also feel I could call my Mum and Dad and have done (e.g dd1 who has SN went through a phrase of unexplained severe leg pain. When it came, all that would calm her was to speak to grandad. So we phoned at 3 am and they willingly answered.)

Sad waits until sociable hours.

Why don't you spill it all here -sometimes just getting it out there is enough.

My first port of call is my mum. Ive often phoned her at ungodly times (I suffer from depression)

I had a total meltdown once when she was on holiday and phoned my oldest friend. She lives 10 mins away but does have a hubby & 3 kids. She came over at 3am no questions asked. Made cups of tea gave me hugs and spoke to my mum to reassure her I was improving. One in a million but I know she IS there should I need her

See if I was your friend I would answer the phone and speak to you. But that's who I am by nature. I hate to think that somebody I care about is in need.

It doesn't work well for me as I get known as the friend you can call upon (8 months of suicide stuff and nobody was interested but me) yet when I'm having issues it's like tumble weeds. Dry.

But I decided recently I would rather be the friend that cared than the friend that didn't. That sits better with my moral compass as it were.

Ah redglitter that made me teary. No one would do that for me, despite me doing that for them.

Lougle i'd feel i was whinging tbh

Whoa funnyfoot are you me ? 12 mths of supporting a friend through suicide attempts etc and now im being blanked for newer friends, depsite me having several million problems myself atm.

Yes. I have a close family, a few great friends, a lovely partner and some great colleagues. I also have MN. And once, a little while after a very painful family bereavement, I called the Samaritans.. I needed someone to just listen.

I am thankful for my family and friends, I am privileged to have a wide outer circle and a have decent on-line community. But I am so grateful that even when we feel we have no one to call, there are kind people at the end of the phone who will listen to us.

We are fortunate that there is always someone that anyone can call.

Yes, I have got this. I went in labour 3 months early, and called my mum, stepdad and Fil. They all offered to drop everything and come and help.

When I taught in British primary schools we used to get children to draw around their own hand and draw in each finger a person they could turn to at anytime if they had a problem. I was thinking about it in the park just the other day... I think my five would change significantly depending on the nature of my problem iyswim.... plus 5 seems like more than is really needed.... and tbh often the ones that stand beside you in your hour of need are not the people you were expecting to at all at all at all.... and the ones that don't that were carefully scribed inside your finger shape... well you understand them for who they are, you see their image of you and you accept and love them despite their blinkered comprehension. We are all merely human and that is what is so beautiful about life!

I'd not think to call Samaritans tbh

See, I am close to my dad. I can go days without contacting him but I know he'd be there if i needed him. However, I'd not casll him now with my worries cos he is old and need his kip.

I'm not so close to my mum, even though she probably would talk to me at this hour.

Friends, have non realy.

There are people I could call at any time in an emergency, yes, but I probably would only do so if I needed some sort of immediate practical assistance, or if it was a dire emotional crisis (someone dying, perhaps). No one I could just wake up for a rant about the general problems in life other than DH, and he wouldn't be too impressed either. That's what the dog is for. :)

Yes, a few. I have just realised how lucky I am.

I could call my boyfriend and he'd be there for me.

Other than that if if were about the DC I could phone XH although he would probably be Asleep and wouldn't wake up

Have phoned the Samaritans before and may well do again.

Cutefluffy, my dog is snoring, i don't think she'd be impressed lol

Dunno, Nutcracker, still beats the cat, who would wander off looking bored and probably make me feel worse.

I'm incredibly fortunate that I do. Four in fact (not including DH, as presumably he'd either be there, or the problem in this hypothetical situation). My oldest friend, my brother, a colleague who's like family, and my SIL. In fact, my mam and dad would be there if I desperately needed them, but I wouldn't phone them as they'd panic.

God, I've just realised how lucky I am.

Yeah I do. My best friend is ace, as is my sister.

I am very very lucky I suppose, could wake Dh, If not then could call mum or dad, sister or in real emergency bf.

No. I have no-one really. All the people I would call are on the other side of the world so unless someone had actually died I wouldn't call.

I've become very aware of my lack of friends over her recently. I have absolutely no support other than DH - and when we row, like now, I am utterly alone.

I'm really... not sure. I don't know the answer.

This thread has given me something to think about.

yes and it has been appreciated and i will be forever grateful x