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I have a 'crush' and I'm not sure how to proceed....

92 replies

Shoegal0305 · 11/05/2014 23:37

Ok so I've been single for, like, forever. Happily too it has to be said. Had a few disastrous flings which strengthened my desire to be single.

A few weeks ago, a guy was in my workplace, fixing something electrical. He just seemed lovely, very smiley, chatty and, well, just nice. I offered to make him a cup of tea and started chatting...... Turns out we have a few mutual friends thru another one of his jobs (he does two jobs!). I mentioned him to one mutual friend (male) who reiterated what a nice guy he was but I didn't want to ask anymore as unsure whether he is single? He doesn't have a wedding ring on but I know that doesn't mean anything?

Last week I was driving thru town and I saw him again, on his own. Fast forward to today and I saw him in the supermarket, again alone, as was I. He was friendly and lovely and was like 'oh hiya blah blah blah'. I was pleasantly surprised he even remembered me! I chatted for a while and that was that.

So my dilemma is do I ask my mutual friend about him and if do what do I say without sounding 'desperate'???? If he turns round and says oh he's married or oh he has a partner etc I will look stupid???

Ps can you tell I've been out of play for ages?!!!Wink

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Shoegal0305 · 16/05/2014 11:54

He's married/in a relationship!!!!! HmmHmmHmmHmm

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DavidArchersBoa · 16/05/2014 11:56

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! Sad

Atbeckandcall · 16/05/2014 11:56

Oh no!!!

Plenty of fish and all that jazz though (Shane they're all slippery buggers though).

Atbeckandcall · 16/05/2014 11:57

Shame. Not Shane. Who on Earth is he?!

knowledgeispower · 16/05/2014 11:59

Ffs!!! So sorry OP. I had goosebumps for you, onward and upward...

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 16/05/2014 12:00

Damnit!

Never mind. At least you know now.

Any ideas for your next crush? :)

RecentlySpotted · 16/05/2014 12:05

Oh no Sad

TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 16/05/2014 12:11

Well how rude of him to unknowingly get your our hopes up. At least you know that you're capable of the tingles again, even though your radar was a little off on the availability thing.

Sassy777 · 16/05/2014 12:13

dammit! gutted for you...

Shoegal0305 · 16/05/2014 12:29

I'm gutted!!! Thing is I'm really not into the whole internet dating scene the thought gives me the shivers so work is a safe place to meet people!! Hmm

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DavidArchersBoa · 16/05/2014 12:40

Or not as this shows... Wink

There re some lovely men online, amongst the dross

Shoegal0305 · 16/05/2014 12:44

It makes me feel sick to think of having to go on blind dates? X

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ShoeWhore · 16/05/2014 13:07

Oh no OP gutted for you Sad

Maisie0 · 16/05/2014 14:40

No.... where is his ring ????
Ok, Carte Dor it is....

Don't think too far ahead on online dating. If you like meeting someone you know in real life, or through friends of friends, then I'd go for that method ?

Well, I am also glad that you got the tingles too. :) It means the feelings are coming back !

SnotandBothered · 16/05/2014 20:05

oh what a disappointment.

But as Maisie says - if it's woken you up to the possibility, then it's not in vain.

But, still, :(

Shoegal0305 · 16/05/2014 21:26

Thankyou for all your support guys it's times like this I feel so glad I joined Mumsnet!! Smile

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LizzieBelle · 17/05/2014 22:11

Aww, I was hoping it was all good too....

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