Dh being horrible to dcs

[Edenviolet]

I don't know if he's tired, fed up or if its due to being in pain but dh has been absolutely horrible for the last few days. I need to write it down just to get it all out as there is nobody I can talk to.

Dh decided the other day that me and dcs need to change our surname (we didn't when got married two years ago) dd got upset and dh shouted at her why does she want to keep a pikey/gypsy surname and then kept shouting potatoes and Tarmac at her.
Today he threw away the rolls for dds dinner, claimed he didn't realise they were new and screamed at me to bloody get over it and dd could have something else to eat.
He has just reduced dd1 to tears as she hadn't tidied her room and then did the same to ds1.
He is in a foul mood but I don't know why and I really don't want to be around him.
I don't know what has triggered this nasty and very childish behaviour.

Hedgehog....there is no valid reason. We shouldn't search for it! The reason is because he chose to, be side he can, because he's a nasty twat. Seriously- there is no reason. Maybe it's because he's fucked off about the surnames, maybe it's because he's tired, maybe it's because he's fed up....who gives a shit??? There is no justification.

THis man bullies you and the children because he enjoys it. You really need to get him out of the house as soon as possible because he is going to progress to physical attacks. Someone who takes this much pleasure in making children cry is not going to be satisfied indefinitely by namecalling and depriving them of food and treats. They will start to clamp down on their own distress so as not to give him the gratification of seeing them upset, so he will have to up his game to things like standing on their feet and shutting their fingers in doors.

just short of a year ago i had two children who didn't sleep, were up all night for wees and with nightmares, who screamed and shouted all the time, cried many times a day and were a nightmare at school and i was ill and incapable of looking after the kids by myself.

Now i have three children, including a four month old. They all sleep through the night, go to bed smiling, laugh and joke all day, smile more than they cry and have made exceptional educational progress and i am fit, well and fully capable of doing everything they need including getting everyone to school on time every day since baby was 5 days old.

the thing that changed just under a year ago was i got rid of my husband!!

you can do anything you want/need to do if you put yourself and your children first. it's scary but I promise you you can.