How often do you say I Love You?

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DP and I have been together 2years 3months. We have two kids. We both say the L word several times every day either face to face, in a text or phone call and always when we leave for work in the morning and when saying good night. I happened to mention this to some girlfriends and they seem to mock me implying it was weird. Is it

Loads, to him and the kids and he's the same.

To my dd pretty much constantly :o to my Dp a few times a day.

Lots and lots, every morning on waking, whenever we part, as soon as we're back together and last thing at night.

It's important to me that he knows, and vice versa.

I don't think you are weird at all. I tell my DH I love him about 5-10 times a day.

I also tell my dog I love her a lot, so maybe I'm the weird one!

Several times a day, not so often that it becomes meaningless, but that its really important for us both to say it and hear it when we go off and do different things like go out, got to work etc.
a bit soppy and maybe a bit morbid, and I don't think "this might be the last time I see you" every time we part - but thats partly the reason I think, unfortunately you don't know whats round the corner.

Mostly though I just love him to bits and its important to me that he knows that and that he feels loved

Everyone is different though, I have 2 sisters, one says it to her DH every day/most days. the other one told me her and her OH don't say it hardly at all. They have told each other a few times, but its just not part of their every day relationship. They have been together about 10 years and did not say it any more or less nearer the start of their relationship.

All the time on the phone face to face, in letters and Familygrams and in texts.

We have a long distance relationship as he's in the Navy so to me it's very important to tell him as often as I can and he me.

Always end our phone calls saying it and our texts are very slushy .

With DH 5.5 years, we both say I love you all the time. At the end of any phone conversation, at the end of text messages (not every message - end of conversations), if either of us is going out, randomly throughout the day etc. etc.

I also tell the Dcs I love them all the time and other family a fair bit too. I am very vocal in my affections .

So, I don't think it's weird .

To my DS, all the time.
To my DP, whenever we have a particularly close moment (ie, a deep and meaningful chat) or when he does something that makes me realise why I love him. I'm not very demonstrative with my affections towards him but am getting better at it!

all the time, both to my DH and my children. I also grew up in a home where it was never said and wont do that to my boys.

I do love my hubby and we tell each other all the time in both text, and at both ends of the day etc...

Together 11 years and we both say it several times a day. I tell DS a lot as well.

I don't see what's weird about it.

I say it to ds at least once a day usually bedtime, rarely say it to dh.

I personally dislike saying it casually out of habit, to the point its pretty meaningless and is a bit cringeworthy. It devalues when it is said and meant. We have a guy in the office who finishes every call to his dw with a "love you ".

One day he was on a call with one of his team who reports into him and he ended the call with "ok, see you later, love you ". I'm sure he does love his dw (and not his colleague!) but the declaration after every call is pure habit and meaningless and would grate at me if dh did it (but a least we had a great laugh at his expense!)

We say to the kids 2 or 3 times per day. To each other, 2 or 3 times per week.

I don't think it's weird that you say it that often OP if that's what you both like. I know other couples that say it at the end of every phone call for example. I say it rarely, only when I get kind of flooded with the feeling. But everyones different.

We are sickly knobs. Dp says it to me honestly about fifty times a day. We even say it in the night if one of us wakes up and rolls over. I hope we are still like this in our nineties. I also do notes and cards. I would do anything for him he's an absolute treasure. Sigh....

About 15 467 times a day.

To the dog.

I don't think it is at all sickly to profess undying love! Nor is it weird or unnatural to feel a strong need to express it in words.

Like joysmum says its about appreciating, and the fact that life is so fragile. I tell DP lots, we told each other we loved each other after a month of regular emails then one date and we were smitten! 7 years later, still the same.

The last words I said to my late DH (I was away overnight) were I love you, 24 hours later he had died of a heart attack and I never spoke another word to him. I was bloody glad I said what I did, never need to think twice about whether he knew how I felt before he died.

We say it several times every day. My feeling is that, god forbid, if anything ever happened at least I had told DP that I love him

We all say it to each other at some point everyday. The kids including the eldest at 14 will say it to all their grandparents whenever they are leaving our house after visiting. It's fun to see my dad, stepFIL and FIL kinda squirm when they hear it. It's SO not like any of them were brought up!

DC several times of day

DP maybe once a day... If not, every other day

Probably about once or twice a day. Always when speaking on the phone when apart - just in case something happens.

Been together 10 yrs - but both come from demonstrative, huggy families so it's second nature.

Most days but not every day. I tell ds at bedtime but feel that all the time makes it feel meaningless. Not that thisis the case who say it lots