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is early/mid 50s too old to father kids?

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lagoon · 29/04/2014 12:07

I'm nearly 28 and in a relationship with a man who is 48. He already has grown up kids and I have one child. We have discussed kids and both would like them. We wouldn't be properly ready (practically speaking) to have a baby for another few years due to one reason or another, and the other day it dawned on me that he would be early in his early 50s by this time came. I am totally besotted with this man, despite age gap we are such a good match in every way. He loves the idea of having a baby, he is the sort that loves to be busy and feels he has so much still to give. But I have this mental niggle of discomfort about having a baby with someone at this age for a variety of my own reasons. I so wish the time was right already, as the age he is now seems to be just within my comfort zone. I just don't know what to do. Will he be too old? Am I crazy? Friends tell me to leave him and find someone younger but it's not as easy as that when I already love him. I have tried to imagine life without any more babies and it makes me feel empty and sad. Stuck between a rock and hard place. Any thoughts?

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lagoon · 02/05/2014 09:39

Urgh.. You all make such valid points. it feels so right to have a baby with him in every other way, I'm the sort of person who worries about what others think hence the thread and also I knew you'd all raise points I hadn't even considered. Have to say I now feel in a way it must feel to be with a man who doesn't want kids.... You either leave and break your own heart or give it a go and hope you can eventually accept not having anymore children.

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