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Original poster

I have no where to live

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iambigfatmess · 26/04/2014 13:55

I walked on my controlling husband 10 days ago
Just had some happy time away with family. Back where he lives so dc can go back to school. We jointly own the house which he is refusing to leave. I have booked a hotel for the next 2 nights and said I want a seperation. He controls finance and earns a lot more than me. Help just want some stability for dc and a home for us. He wants us back is being very difficult

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Original poster
iambigfatmess · 28/04/2014 19:53

Looking at a house tomorrow absolutely shattered

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PacificDogwood · 28/04/2014 20:45

Now there's a positive step in the right direction Smile

Did you contact WA and/or a lawyer?

fidelineish · 28/04/2014 20:46

Not bad for a day's work OP Smile

Original poster
iambigfatmess · 28/04/2014 20:54

Had a general chat with solicitor bit haven't started proceedings and went to work

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Original poster
iambigfatmess · 28/04/2014 20:59

Had a general chat with solicitor bit haven't started proceedings and went to work

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fidelineish · 28/04/2014 21:04

Sounds like a pretty good start to me. How are you feeling?

Original poster
iambigfatmess · 28/04/2014 21:14

I think it hit me today

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fidelineish · 28/04/2014 22:49

Oops only just seen your post. I think you've done such a huge brave thing that the shock will come in waves. What are you doing/planning to do in the evenings?

Hemlock2013 · 29/04/2014 07:59

Morning Iam, I hope you managed to get some rest? How are you feeling today? X x

Original poster
iambigfatmess · 29/04/2014 11:18

Tired but caffeine is my friend

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PacificDogwood · 29/04/2014 20:10

Onwards and upwards Brew

fidelineish · 29/04/2014 21:38

How was the house OP?

Original poster
iambigfatmess · 30/04/2014 13:34

Good but numerous people have said do not leave your house so wavering

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fidelineish · 30/04/2014 14:09

What does the solicitor say?

RandomMess · 30/04/2014 20:09

My SIL ending up leaving her marital home with the kids, it was sorted, the house was awarded to her whilst she was renting else where.

I really think you should move out, the alternative of staying and having to stand up to him controlling you whilst seperated but sharing the house would be truly awful IMHO.

Original poster
iambigfatmess · 06/05/2014 00:19

He is still being a real pain hw is the main bread winner hence everything is his

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cozietoesie · 06/05/2014 00:27

Er no. Everything is not his - once you've seen a solicitor.

Keep going.

Are you very tired?

Cerisier · 06/05/2014 00:30

Everything isn't his as you are married.

Please see a solicitor again and get access to some money. Can you get a stop on accounts so he doesn't empty them?

Keep hold of that recording- and keep it safe. He won't want his parents hearing it. If he knows you've got it, be careful.

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